Ayu wrote: ↑Sat Feb 26, 2022 1:34 pm I think, a person that asks a question should keep in mind, that those many answers were given with lots of effort. If I ask a question, people work hard in phrasing, wording, explaining... They love to do that. Otherwise they wouldn't answer, I think.
But when the person doesn't find any end in posing questions, jumps from one difficult topic to a next completely different difficult topic, it feels strange.
In my case personally (I'm talking of another person than you, Nalanda, on another forum than DW), I feel used then. If somebody asks me: "Tell me all about your lineage, I want to take refuge" and we write PMs two days, and on the third day they say, they want to join Theravada rather - ehm, okay... Another 3 days later they ask for Rigpa in the forum, then they definitely want to practice Zen and at the end, after engaging the whole forum, they leave and become Christian better...
...I'm sorry to say it honestly, but somehow I feel somebody wasted my time then, seemingly only because they believe everybody has to work for them and they don't need to engage and think by themselves.
I know, there is a flaw in my view. Just wanted to utter why I have empathy with people who get slightly impatient at a certain point.
I think you've helped them. You are very good for doing what you did. You didn't waste time at all. It's a success story and I wish to have a friend like you. Let's have a non-alcoholic beer sometimes.