Well, he’s pointing out something that is a bedrock of Buddhist practice, even if it’s common to other traditions.bowsamic wrote: ↑Mon Sep 18, 2023 8:39 pmIt's all well and good but also such an argument applies to whichever ethical principles I happen to be fulfilling for other religions. Really, it's not spiritually meaningful for me. By saying this stuff, you are satisfying only yourself.ThreeVows wrote: ↑Mon Sep 18, 2023 8:36 pmFWIW, IMO framing it in a Buddhist lens is far less important than what you do. If you follow good ethics and you have a true longing for liberation, then this will bear fruit. These days, I think it's not unreasonable to think that there are a lot of 'Buddhist teachings' that are actually propagated by, basically, those who don't really know what they're talking about. And as such, if you encounter these 'Buddhist teachings' and find them to be unsatisfactory, then it's reasonable to look elsewhere.
I might... caution you, perhaps, again to consider that this may not be because 'true' Buddhism is flawed, as much as that you haven't actually understood it properly. But regardless, if you test something and find it to be lacking, it is indeed reasonable to look elsewhere.
In my opinion, the fundamental starting point, in general, might be truly committing to a life of non-harm, and from that basis, then not only focusing on non-harm but actually benefit.
In a Buddhist context, on the level of body and speech, there are the lay precepts - not killing, stealing, lying, sexually harming, or becoming intoxicated to the point that you engage in the other 4, basically. But then on the level of mind, there are the brahmaviharas, like metta or loving kindness.
You could consider looking up Sharon Salzberg's book Loving Kindness, or Tulku Thondup's excellent book The Heart of Unconditional Love. These books get towards the level of the mind, not just the prescriptions of body and speech.
If you work through your situation well enough, I think you will find that things open up as is possible.
Ethics and Morality can be seen to some degree as rules for what not to do….but what I find unique to Buddhism are the methods to actively increase and embrace positive qualities, and not just to avoid negative ones.
Are you familiar with LoJong (Mind Training)? Have you experienced metta practice, or maybe the meditations related to Chenrezig??