And years later this comment still helps me along. Though these days I'm far less affected by it. I've come to a place of acceptance, compassion and distance. I'm finally ok with the way of things. That must be progress right?
markatex wrote: ↑Sun May 06, 2018 6:47 pmWith regards to this, specifically...
Not all of us get the parents we want, need, or should’ve had. It sucks, and it messes a lot of us up, and we have issues that take decades to work out just so we can be functional adults.
It’s understandable to be angry and want/need to distance yourself. Even in North America, we have a culture that tells us we have to love our families and keep them in our lives no matter what. It’s hard to go against that conditioning, and when we do, people are very judgmental about it.
You have to make peace with the fact that your mother is never going to be the mother you want or need her to be.
That doesn’t make it okay, and it doesn’t mean you have to have any kind of relationship with her if you feel it would be detrimental to your well-being.
But over time, it might help you be less angry about it. Go easy on yourself. You’re not a bad person because you need to distance yourself.