I'm not saying there is no warmth. Human beings have this capacity so it expresses wherever there are people.mikenz66 wrote: ↑Thu Nov 07, 2019 9:50 amThe Asian Buddhist communities I've had some involvement with (mostly Thai Theravada, but also a Theravada group in Hong Kong and the local Fo Guang Shan) seem pretty warm to me. And my local secularist-ish Buddhists are pretty friendly too...Queequeg wrote: ↑Fri Nov 01, 2019 4:46 pm I think there are aspects of Buddhadharma that are perfectly conducive to those expressions, though they have developed and express a little differently in the Asian context in a way that might fall short of a Westerner's expectation. That kind of warmth in interpersonal relations will need to be part of the equation, I think. (And might even be something that Asians could use a dose of.)
However, I do agree that Christians can be fun to interact with, and I often feel I have more in common with them than atheistic work colleagues.
What I'm talking about is the religious basis of that interaction. Buddhism has a tendency to focus attention to one's own liberation. Even in Mahayana where the bodhisattva vow encompasses liberation of all - its often framed as something one does only later, upon attaining some advancement.
I think its why there is a red cross, but no red dharma wheel. In Christianity, you have saints who care for the poor and sick as a prominent practice, open and run hospitals, etc. I've heard people make the argument that this is the case with Buddhists, too, but I'm not yet convinced its at the same scale and robustness you find in the Church.
I think this comes down to how one is encouraged to view their fellows.
I've heard criticism of Buddhists as being narcissistic... there's something to it... look at who we consider the saints... guys who leave the world and sit in a cave. Where's the Buddhist Francis?
As another example that doesn't express the way Christianity does - Judaism doesn't have the same impulse. Maybe lately, under the influence of Chrisitianity, but the basic view is not developed in Judaism. It instead has an insular in-group mentality.