If someone guilt trips you into hanging out with them, is that really a friend?

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bcol01
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If someone guilt trips you into hanging out with them, is that really a friend?

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Thoughts?
In his writing, Hokkemongu (Words and Phrases of the Lotus Sutra), The Great Master Nichiren said, “If the practitioners of the Lotus Sutra wholeheartedly devote their life to the Lotus Sutra and practice according to its golden words, it is certainly needless to say that not only in the next life, but also in this lifetime they will overcome severe difficulty, prolong their life, receive the great, good fortune of unsurpassed enlightenment, and accomplish the great vow of the widespread, propagation of True Buddhism.”
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Re: If someone guilt trips you into hanging out with them, is that really a friend?

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bcol01 wrote: Fri Sep 25, 2020 3:43 amThoughts?
Not enough info. Does he or she have any good qualities that balance out this unpleasant trait?

Also with compassionate eyes maybe the underlying problem is that the person is needy, lonely, and insecure? Guilt trips can sting but they come from a place of weakness. I assume you aspire to have compassion for all sentient beings. Maybe you could find a way to put them at ease while drawing out their good qualities.

Or maybe they are an energy drain that is better avoided if you don't feel up to the task. Like I said not enough info.
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Who is really a friend?
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It's up to you to be their friend! That's how friendships are formed. If they want you to hang out with them, that's the beginning.
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hello all....have come to the conclusion that a friend is someone who makes you bloom.... :smile:
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denise wrote: Fri Sep 25, 2020 11:25 am hello all....have come to the conclusion that a friend is someone who makes you bloom.... :smile:
:good:
a nice note for me to end on..
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