If someone guilt trips you into hanging out with them, is that really a friend?

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bcol01
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If someone guilt trips you into hanging out with them, is that really a friend?

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Thoughts?
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FiveSkandhas
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bcol01 wrote: Fri Sep 25, 2020 3:43 amThoughts?
Not enough info. Does he or she have any good qualities that balance out this unpleasant trait?

Also with compassionate eyes maybe the underlying problem is that the person is needy, lonely, and insecure? Guilt trips can sting but they come from a place of weakness. I assume you aspire to have compassion for all sentient beings. Maybe you could find a way to put them at ease while drawing out their good qualities.

Or maybe they are an energy drain that is better avoided if you don't feel up to the task. Like I said not enough info.
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Who is really a friend?
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It's up to you to be their friend! That's how friendships are formed. If they want you to hang out with them, that's the beginning.
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hello all....have come to the conclusion that a friend is someone who makes you bloom.... :smile:
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denise wrote: Fri Sep 25, 2020 11:25 am hello all....have come to the conclusion that a friend is someone who makes you bloom.... :smile:
:good:
a nice note for me to end on..
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