I don’t know, plenty of teachers don’t really interact with their students that way. Even the teachers with whom I have direct relationship have never given me ‘here’s the perfect formula for you’ advice. Rather, they offered what they offered, answered questions in detail, and were happy to mention other teachers who might have a different method. Up to and including even inviting them to teach.
Not saying there is anything wrong with having a teacher who simply tells you exactly what you should be doing at a given time, but I don’t think it’s the gold standard either, just one approach.
While the advice (and transmission) is more than necessary, there is also no reason for us to expect hand holding or a daddy (or mommy) figure from my point of view. the best way to honor a teacher is to take the practices received and do our best, the boots on the ground work is the students responsibility. Respecting our karmic connections seems advisable.
I do wonder if sometimes students project onto Lamas and have expectations that don’t make sense. Expecting a pat on the head is a diversion. Work with the practices we have, cherish our Dharma relationships, and don’t constantly second guess ourselves, or assume a teacher can, will, or should answer all of our questions.
ChNN made a big deal about being responsible for ourselves as practitioners, to me it was one of his most important teachings, and hearing him talking about this in teachings was for me, kind of an "aha" moment in the often confusing world of Vajrayana, and Tibetan Buddhism as a whole. No matter what kind of relationship we have with teachers, I think it's good to separate what is the most skillful thing we can do at a given time with our practice, vs. fanciful notions of what it might be in the future, ymmv. Doing the skillful thing there, instead of just grasping the emotionally satisfying thing I have come to believe is one way to become a more mature practitioner.
Part of that is simply about viewing things from the point of view of deprivation, vs. a point of view of gratitude. We don't want to become hungry ghosts about Dharma, it defeats the whole purpose.
"...if you think about how many hours, months and years of your life you've spent looking at things, being fascinated by things that have now passed away, then how wonderful to spend even five minutes looking into the nature of your own mind."