Ardha wrote: ↑Thu Aug 12, 2021 6:56 am
But I thought that truth was supposed to hurt and choosing to live a lie was easier, like when he mentions about going back to the self because it's too hard. Honestly that part of the book didn't explain it at all. I always found it weird how people just said those things aren't us because we don't control them. But why? Who said they had to be in control for them to be us? It just sounded like an assertion and little else.
You keep referring to the “21 Lessons” book and then based on that, making assumptions about Buddhism. That doesn’t make sense. Yuval Noah Harari isn’t explaining Buddhism.
Why should truth hurt?
Why should living a lie be easy?
Please explain that if you have time.
I'm not really seeing how the illusion of self brings suffering as it's really the only way I enjoy
anything to be honest.
Okay, let’s really be honest. To be honest, you have presented what appears to be a personal dilemma. In Buddhism, a personal dilemma is regarded as suffering. If this personal dilemma is not the result of attachment to the idea of ‘self’ then what else is it based on?
So, right here, you are your own example of how dissatisfaction arises from attachment to ‘self’.
On the other hand, what you might be saying is that you enjoy being caught up in a personal dilemma. Either way, the personal dilemma is based on the attachment to the illusion of a permanently occurring ‘self’.
Whenever I "lose myself" so to speak I lose the desire to really do anything or seek anything, it wasn't a good way to be even though you could find it as peaceful.
Do you really ever lose yourself? Do you lose yourself the way an artists lose themselves in the act of creating art, or a musician loses herself in the playing of music? Athletes also experience it. Soldiers in battle experience it. Maybe you’ve just never really experienced it. Perhaps you are referring to being lost in a foggy and dull state of mind. That’s something totally different
That's why I don't see how Buddhism is compatible with daily life, like enjoying things or wanting to go and do something, have a hobby, date, etc. Whenever I read on teachers explaining it it just sounds like cognitive dissonance, or having your cake and eating it too. To me it sounds like you have to choose between a "normal life" or peace.
The reason why you don’t see how Buddhism is compatible with daily life isn’t because of Buddhism. It’s because of your misunderstanding of Buddhism. So, please stop assuming that “Buddhism says this and this” when it doesn’t.
Now, in all fairness, it is true that the Buddha, in his day, did encourage those
who were suited to it, to give up the life of a “householder” and become a monk or a nun. So, yes, there is a line which
can be crossed you might say. But the Buddha also gave a lot practical advice to farmers, kings, merchants, various “householders”. The sutras are full of examples of that.
Dropping everything to become a monk is certainly an option, if one wants to focus on meditation, study, and practice 24/7. But this is really no different than being a medical or law student in college and spending all your time studying rather than out drinking beer and playing frisbee.
The point that the Buddhist teachings make about a “normal life” isn’t about the events in that life, but about the mistaken assumptions that people make regarding those events, which is that most people assume that temporary things will bring permanent satisfaction. That’s the “normal” view, and it’s obviously wrong, because if it were true, everybody would be happy all the time.
So, you can enjoy a pizza. Totally enjoy it. Stuff yourself. But if you think that having stuffed yourself with pizza, you will never be hungry again, then of course that’s wrong and in a day or so you will be hungry again. But this is precisely what people do in their “normal” life. They think, “Oh, if I buy this then I will be happy” and for a short time they are, but then that happiness fades, not because of the object, but because the source of happiness isn’t objects, but is one’s own mind.
In the meantime, please stop evaluating Buddhist teaching based on “21 Lessons”. They are two different things.
It’s like plugging a TV set into a banana and then wondering why there’s no picture.
Stop trying to connect things that don’t happen to have any connection points to each other. It will save you a lot of time and frustration.
EMPTIFUL.
An inward outlook produces outward insight.