
This was one of my first Dharma stories years ago, I still remember it as if it was yesterday

Me too! I've been faced with big Drama and instead of my head feeling like it's on fire, or me thinking, "oh my gosh, I am gonna push that button (nuclear bomb)", my body just gets a really solid vibration and my mind stays pretty clear. I still deal with a whole lot of confusion, people don't make sense to me, that must mean I don't make sense to myselfjeeprs wrote: Generally speaking there is more equanimity, but I don't know how it would hold up if there was a big drama.
You are funny.reddust wrote:Me too! I've been faced with big Drama and instead of my head feeling like it's on fire, or me thinking, "oh my gosh, I am gonna push that button (nuclear bomb)", my body just gets a really solid vibration and my mind stays pretty clear. I still deal with a whole lot of confusion, people don't make sense to me, that must mean I don't make sense to myselfjeeprs wrote: Generally speaking there is more equanimity, but I don't know how it would hold up if there was a big drama.
My family do that too.. yes, it's very annoyingjeeprs wrote:Well - yes! Maybe not so much as previously, but still...and my family always says 'not very Buddhist of you' whenever I do, which makes it even more annoying.
-------------reddust wrote:This was one of my first Dharma stories years ago, I still remember it as if it was yesterday
but, on first sight, she had looked angrily at him.
Oh I know, a hairless bear
Which I would tell mine... Didn't Jesus say to turn the other cheek?...but still...and my family always says 'not very Buddhist of you' whenever I do, which makes it even more annoying.
Why would anyone be insulted by someone else's anger?reddust wrote:I was going to post this story before the Marriage article….it's closer to my heartOne day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake.” Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?” The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.” The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.” “If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy.”
I will take that as a positive, but still that is one ugly cat!plwk wrote:
Alternatively, it's an honour to be a Sphynx...
So Jesus said this did he? Is this the same Jesus that took a stick to the loan sharks, gamblers & dealers at the temple.reddust wrote:
My motto is, "When in Doubt, do nothing"......that is keep my mouth
I do that a bit. I got told as a kid that it takes no brains & even less effort to keep your mouth shut. This habit has undoubtedly saved me from making a million apologys.plwk wrote:
... Didn't Jesus say to turn the other cheek?
When I get angry I don't feel very empty...makes my body feel like a brickLastLegend wrote:Angry is empty. So I get angry all the time.
Thank you Tidathep, inspiring stories are food for my heart! I still struggle with frustration but no more rage and my anger doesn't last for years, months, weeks, even a day now. I think I am making progress or maybe I am must getting old, no more energy to waste on anger or headachestidathep wrote:
As a result of that evil deed Rohini had become a leper in this existence. The Buddha then exhorted the congregation not to act foolishly in anger and not to bear any ill will towards others.
Then the Buddha spoke in verse as follows:
Verse 220: Give up anger, abandon conceit, overcome all fetters. Ills of life (dukkha) do not befall one who does not cling to mind and body and is free from moral defilements,
reddust wrote:, "My motto is, "When in Doubt, do nothing"......that is keep my mouth"
When I was a kid I learned to keep my mouth shut, saved my life and my butt from a whipping many times and I forgot the skill in my 30s, learned it again working for lawyers. The less said, the less trouble you can get into. Especially talking about other people's businessshaunc wrote:
I do that a bit. I got told as a kid that it takes no brains & even less effort to keep your mouth shut. This habit has undoubtedly saved me from making a million apologys..
When I get angry, I feel a burning sensation in my head. Then after my anger subdued, I am empty again. The Vietnamese translation of suffering is "phiền nảo." Phiền literally means bothering nảo means brain.reddust wrote:When I get angry I don't feel very empty...makes my body feel like a brickLastLegend wrote:Angry is empty. So I get angry all the time.
Reminds me of a commercial we had here in America about your brain on drugs. The commercial showed an egg frying in a hot oil....it's hard to think while your brains on fire too. Anger does feel like a drug...I think I was addicted to it for a time as well....Best not to feed addictions of self and otherLastLegend wrote:When I get angry, I feel a burning sensation in my head. Then after my anger subdued, I am empty again. The Vietnamese translation of suffering is "phiền nảo." Phiền literally means bothering nảo means brain.reddust wrote:When I get angry I don't feel very empty...makes my body feel like a brickLastLegend wrote:Angry is empty. So I get angry all the time.
LastLegend wrote:Vietnamese, "Phiền nảo tức bồ đề" which means "suffering is bodhi."
I guess anger can wake you up to your own suffering...hahaha, why is my brain on fire? I figured out it wasn't anyones fault, it was my conditioning. So no sharing anger, no taking other people's anger...just let it be as it is and it'll burn itself out. The hardest part for me was and still is not hooking into other people's anger. I tend to accept it, take it personal and that triggers the anger in me. So a large part of my practice the last 10 years has been working in a sangha, setting up teachings and retreats. Working with other people in a sangha setting really helped me calm down. For some reason, for me anyway Sangha for layfolk is like a pressure cookerwiki
Bodhi is an abstract noun formed from the verbal root budh (to awake, become aware, notice, know or understand) corresponding to the verbs bujjhati (Pāli) and bodhati or budhyate (Sanskrit). Also from the same root are the Sanskrit words bodha (also meaning knowledge or intelligence) and buddhi which is the exact equivalent to the Greek word nous.