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by bcol01
Mon Aug 30, 2021 3:51 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: How does one be him or herself if they aren't sure who they are?
Replies: 21
Views: 1772

Re: How does one be him or herself if they aren't sure who they are?

Ty Kathy for that insight! How do you be yourself if you aren't sure who you are? watching this thread no one asked you if this is a gender related question. The world is so open to the various genders we as human beings are, and so many to define us. The Karma seems to have changed for people that ...
by bcol01
Mon Aug 30, 2021 3:51 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: How does one be him or herself if they aren't sure who they are?
Replies: 21
Views: 1772

Re: How does one be him or herself if they aren't sure who they are?

Def not a gender-issue How do you be yourself if you aren't sure who you are? watching this thread no one asked you if this is a gender related question. The world is so open to the various genders we as human beings are, and so many to define us. The Karma seems to have changed for people that are ...
by bcol01
Thu Aug 26, 2021 5:57 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: How does one be him or herself if they aren't sure who they are?
Replies: 21
Views: 1772

How does one be him or herself if they aren't sure who they are?

How do you be yourself if you aren't sure who you are?
by bcol01
Mon Aug 09, 2021 3:16 pm
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Emotionally neglectful and indifferent Mother - acceptance, compassion and distancing
Replies: 4
Views: 619

Re: Emotionally neglectful and indifferent Mother - acceptance, compassion and distancing

I agree and that's good that your situation is now more manageable. Ty again. :namaste: Mod note: This post was split from this old topic: https://www.dharmawheel.net/viewtopic.php?p=446342#p446342 And years later this comment still helps me along. Though these days I'm far less affected by it. I've...
by bcol01
Tue Aug 03, 2021 8:14 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What makes someone a Buddhst?
Replies: 13
Views: 1218

Re: What makes someone a Buddhst?

Ty for that. That's still quite general but more precise ;) Thanks, narhwal :namaste: Would you care to elaborate? When you say "act like it", what does that mean? I'd say what makes someone a buddhist is that they act like it. Some degree of conformance the Precepts, Eightfold path- which...
by bcol01
Tue Aug 03, 2021 7:55 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What makes someone a Buddhst?
Replies: 13
Views: 1218

Re: What makes someone a Buddhst?

We see Nichiren has fulfilling a Buddhist prophecy--yes, we have them. Essentially, you could start there and possibly come to a better understanding.I suppose anything is a cult these days. They use to say the same thing about Christians, but I digress. I've noticed that this question is in the Nic...
by bcol01
Tue Aug 03, 2021 7:53 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What makes someone a Buddhst?
Replies: 13
Views: 1218

Re: What makes someone a Buddhst?

Would you care to elaborate? When you say "act like it", what does that mean?
narhwal90 wrote: Tue Aug 03, 2021 2:27 pm I'd say what makes someone a buddhist is that they act like it.
by bcol01
Mon Aug 02, 2021 8:04 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What makes someone a Buddhst?
Replies: 13
Views: 1218

What makes someone a Buddhst?

Aside from striving to summon forth ones' own Buddhahood, how should one lve as a Buddhist? How should one think, speak and act? I have my own take on this question, but as always, I thoroughly enjoy hearing the insights of others in the sangha. I always learn something new or see something from a u...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 29, 2021 9:43 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Three thousand thoughts in a single life moment..
Replies: 24
Views: 1938

Re: Three thousand thoughts in a single life moment..

All thoughts are subject to the law of cause and effect and dependent origination? I think it means that one thing depends on a limitless number of other things. One thought does not exist by itself in isolation of other thoughts. Its meaning derives from other thoughts and from other concepts. All ...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 29, 2021 8:01 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What does it mean to "honor" ones' parents?
Replies: 9
Views: 837

Re: What does it mean to "honor" ones' parents?

You're right, Quee. Ty. I'm happy for it too, quite grateful in fact. Those lotuses just keep blooming, my friend. :namaste: Wonderful. Sounds like you got it right. I remember you've posted about your relationship with your parents over the years, and so to read that this is the place you've been a...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 29, 2021 8:00 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What does it mean to "honor" ones' parents?
Replies: 9
Views: 837

Re: What does it mean to "honor" ones' parents?

Aptly said. Ty I would add boundaries; your choice of what behaviors from them you will be around, and what of your own behaviors you present to them. Meaning, you don't have to participate in others' drama or dysfunction, and its helpful to get more clear on one's own so as to avoid spreading it ar...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 29, 2021 7:13 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What does it mean to "honor" ones' parents?
Replies: 9
Views: 837

Re: What does it mean to "honor" ones' parents?

Thank you, Kathy. :namaste: :namaste: I think you have expressed it very well. Obviously, people with different experiences growing up will have different ways of honouring their parents. However, for those whose upbringing was problematic, what you have described is a productive meditation for gene...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 29, 2021 5:35 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: What does it mean to "honor" ones' parents?
Replies: 9
Views: 837

What does it mean to "honor" ones' parents?

I didn't have much of a relationship with either of my parents, but over the years I found a way to let go of bitter feelings and resentment. At the end of the day, I realized that we're all here stumbling around trying to find our own way and do the best we can in life. Maybe my parents weren't the...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 29, 2021 1:52 am
Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
Topic: Emotionally neglectful and indifferent Mother - acceptance, compassion and distancing
Replies: 4
Views: 619

Emotionally neglectful and indifferent Mother - acceptance, compassion and distancing

Mod note: This post was split from this old topic: https://www.dharmawheel.net/viewtopic.php?p=446342#p446342 And years later this comment still helps me along. Though these days I'm far less affected by it. I've come to a place of acceptance, compassion and distance. I'm finally ok with the way of...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 29, 2021 1:46 am
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Is it normal for ones' faith to wax and wane over time?
Replies: 34
Views: 2497

Re: Is it normal for ones' faith to wax and wane over time?

Thank you. :namaste: That faith is back and forth a lot, but these days I find myself just witnessing the inner tug of war and then just going back to chanting again. So far, I'm staying the course and if it's true that all we really ever have is this moment, then I resolve to continue chanting Namu...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 29, 2021 12:17 am
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Three thousand thoughts in a single life moment..
Replies: 24
Views: 1938

Re: Three thousand thoughts in a single life moment..

It appeals to me too, minus the engineering mindset. Unless of course that would entail wanting to understand how something works. Its an interesting proposition. The way the dimensions are compounded fundamentally relates all experience from hell to buddhahood, there is no condition of life which d...
by bcol01
Wed Jul 28, 2021 8:25 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Three thousand thoughts in a single life moment..
Replies: 24
Views: 1938

Three thousand thoughts in a single life moment..

I'm still trying to understand this. Would love your insights on the subject. I want to understand better. :namaste:
by bcol01
Tue Jul 13, 2021 3:30 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: The Buddha's Noble Eightfold Path in light of the Lotus Sutra
Replies: 8
Views: 1058

Re: The Buddha's Noble Eightfold Path in light of the Lotus Sutra

I'm not sure if it would be "excluded", but instead viewed from the perspective of mappo. Here is the Noble Eightfold Path appropriate for the Latter Day: Right Views: Viewing the Lotus Sutra as the quintessence of the Buddha's teachings. Means to hold the Lotus Sutra as the highest teachi...
by bcol01
Thu Jul 08, 2021 6:13 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Why do so many people have the misconception that Buddhists are supposed to be all fuzzy and nonchalant all the time?
Replies: 12
Views: 1064

Why do so many people have the misconception that Buddhists are supposed to be all fuzzy and nonchalant all the time?

Meaning, we're not suppose to feel or show emotion or be stern when we have to? Where does this misconception come from? Would love your thoughts.
by bcol01
Thu Jul 08, 2021 4:03 pm
Forum: Nichiren
Topic: Is it normal for ones' faith to wax and wane over time?
Replies: 34
Views: 2497

Re: Is it normal for ones' faith to wax and wane over time?

Thanks Q! I appreciate what you said, and I totally agree. For some reason, over time (I say "some reason" but now I get the reason which is good), when I return to practicing Buddhism and put myself in alignment with it/practice consistently and study, I feel more "me" and more ...

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