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- Thu May 19, 2022 1:09 pm
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Is love an illusion?
- Replies: 98
- Views: 6998
Re: Is love an illusion?
Love as infatuation between a man and a woman is a common phenomena. It is necessary for the continuity of the race and for making families, but it does not last. In that sense, it can be said to be delusional. Between birth and death, where the human experience takes place, there is a wide spectrum...
- Fri Jan 07, 2022 12:41 pm
- Forum: Ethical Conduct
- Topic: Right Speech in a troubled house?
- Replies: 4
- Views: 3849
Re: Right Speech in a troubled house?
Try to recollect the good qualities of your father. You can be certain that he has some. This could help you being less fixated about his short-comings, and would help you change your approach when you convey certain truths to him as you see them. It would also help him being more receptive to your ...
- Sun Mar 21, 2021 12:06 pm
- Forum: Dying and Death
- Topic: Thoughts on this
- Replies: 13
- Views: 6017
Re: Thoughts on this
I know I'm the cause of my own suffering if I don't do anything about it. I guess I'm just weak and have too many ridiculous excuses why it's hard to stop using social media. For the most part it's fine. I limit what I watch and/or follow and if someone upsets me or there's a topic that upsets me i...
- Thu Mar 18, 2021 10:53 am
- Forum: Dying and Death
- Topic: Thoughts on this
- Replies: 13
- Views: 6017
Re: Thoughts on this
I know people might say, just take a break from all social media and take a break from the internet and I might but that might be a little hard to be honest. I'm just wanting some insight Ave guidance from people who have helped me before. You want some insight and guidance from others, and at the ...
- Mon Feb 08, 2021 6:44 pm
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Buddhism and assertiveness
- Replies: 10
- Views: 1709
Re: Buddhism and assertiveness
"So the monk approached the Great Brahma and, on arrival, said, 'Friend, where do these four great elements — the earth property, the liquid property, the fire property, and the wind property — cease without remainder?' "When this was said, the Great Brahma said to the monk, 'I, monk, am ...
- Mon Feb 08, 2021 6:35 pm
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Buddhism and assertiveness
- Replies: 10
- Views: 1709
Re: Buddhism and assertiveness
Buddhism does not directly address every possible single issue facing humans, but offers a framework that can be applied to wide variety of contexts. Worldly knowledge lacks certainty, and depends on reason to explain phenomena. The lack of certainty is non-linear, hence usually a coherent worldly v...
- Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:57 pm
- Forum: Ethical Conduct
- Topic: Is it adultery if my partner is still married?
- Replies: 29
- Views: 12972
Re: Is it adultery if my partner is still married?
She wasn't able to get divorced because her husband is making it difficult to proceed with the documentation. Do you know why her husband is making it difficult to proceed with the documentation? and if you do, would that affect what is considered "adultery" in your POV? In general, the l...
- Fri Nov 20, 2020 1:28 pm
- Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
- Topic: How are you staying active during the pandemic?
- Replies: 14
- Views: 3204
Re: How are you staying active during the pandemic?
I tested positive three weeks ago, so i isolated myself at home for two weeks with very little movement except inside my small apartment. After the quarantine period my body was really stiff, but gradually, and after getting back to work, it is getting better. We have a total curfew every Friday, so...
- Fri Nov 20, 2020 12:50 pm
- Forum: Meditation
- Topic: Compassion
- Replies: 4
- Views: 1108
Re: Compassion
Compassion, when defined in terms of absence, is to be free from delusion and ill will, and therefore not different from wisdom. From that perspective, practicing the 8FP is a training in compassion.
- Fri Nov 20, 2020 12:44 pm
- Forum: Ethical Conduct
- Topic: Did the Buddha teach against killing a being quickly out of mercy?
- Replies: 23
- Views: 11612
Re: Did the Buddha teach against killing a being quickly out of mercy?
From what i know, it is an offense for monastics and a mixed karma for lay followers.
- Fri Nov 20, 2020 12:40 pm
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Continuity
- Replies: 25
- Views: 3672
Re: Continuity
Self continuity is a dependently originated phenomena and therefore there is no ultimate truth in it.
- Fri Nov 20, 2020 12:33 pm
- Forum: Mahāyāna Buddhism
- Topic: What is the cause of desire
- Replies: 10
- Views: 1201
Re: What is the cause of desire
There is no one correct way of explaining/determining causes except through purpose. In general, the Buddha taught that ignorance has no known beginning and that desire or craving is what fuels or maintains ignorance. Recent scientific theories such as natural selection would explain certain desires...
- Wed Oct 07, 2020 9:49 pm
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: What's the best advice you've been given?
- Replies: 30
- Views: 4216
Re: What's the best advice you've been given?
I received a lot of good advice or teachings in my path, such as:
1- The Buddha did not only teach not self
2- To live harmoniously in the world, right thinking is the way.
1- The Buddha did not only teach not self
2- To live harmoniously in the world, right thinking is the way.
- Sat Oct 03, 2020 11:41 am
- Forum: Mahāyāna Buddhism
- Topic: Looking for Buddhist logical statements that disprove the idea that "All is one"
- Replies: 19
- Views: 2480
Re: Looking for Buddhist logical statements that disprove the idea that "All is one"
All is one can be proved from the prospective that when elements are compounded, they can function as one unity recognizable as independent from its surrounding. It can be disproved by highlighting that the one becomes independent only through negating its surrounding, and therefore, it is dependent...
- Mon Sep 21, 2020 12:34 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Ageism or common sense?
- Replies: 42
- Views: 4503
Re: Ageism or common sense?
The Buddha taught: A monk is not an elder because his head is gray. He is but ripe in age, and he is called one grown old in vain. One in whom there is truthfulness, virtue, inoffensiveness, restraint and self-mastery, who is free from defilements and is wise — he is truly called an Elder. The abov...
- Sun Sep 20, 2020 1:42 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Ageism or common sense?
- Replies: 42
- Views: 4503
Re: Ageism or common sense?
The Buddha taught: A monk is not an elder because his head is gray. He is but ripe in age, and he is called one grown old in vain. One in whom there is truthfulness, virtue, inoffensiveness, restraint and self-mastery, who is free from defilements and is wise — he is truly called an Elder. The above...
- Sun Sep 13, 2020 10:30 pm
- Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
- Topic: The Great Debate on Quitting Smoking
- Replies: 152
- Views: 63354
Re: Quitting smoking
I am a heavy smoker, i don't think of quitting, i like smoking. I stopped smoking few times in the past, but without much struggle. Taking the whole thing personal makes quitting more difficult. What stops you from quitting is just another cigarette, this is how the logic goes. It seems more about t...
- Sun Sep 13, 2020 1:38 pm
- Forum: Ethical Conduct
- Topic: is masturbation sexual misconduct?
- Replies: 15
- Views: 26117
Re: is masturbation sexual misconduct?
The ability to masturbate shows how the mind/self/clinging aggregates have no ultimate truth to them. Instead of thinking about it from doctrinal perspective, think of it in terms of opportunity cost, you are limited in time and energy. Humans can do better than seeking sensual pleasure, that does n...
- Sun Sep 13, 2020 12:21 pm
- Forum: Meditation
- Topic: Meditative experience after 6 months - Insight appreciated.
- Replies: 8
- Views: 2353
Re: Meditative experience after 6 months - Insight appreciated.
Hi there, One theory to explain it is that the stilling of the body and focusing on meditation object increases consciousness (predictability) which increases neuroticism. This manifests itself as strange experiences that shakes the mind out of its habitual ways. which gradually increases both creat...
- Tue Aug 25, 2020 4:42 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: COVID - Where are we now? Where are we going?
- Replies: 28
- Views: 4380
Re: COVID - Where are we now? Where are we going?
The confusion is the worst part. It would be ideal if we had consistent guidance on best practices and national coordination on making and distributing safety equipment. We have a lot of really smart people in the country who could help get us on the right track, and most would feel it their duty t...