YOU CANNOT POST. OUR WEB HOSTING COMPANY DECIDED TO MOVE THE SERVER TO ANOTHER LOCATION. IN THE MEANTIME, YOU CAN VIEW THIS VERSION WHICH DOES NOT ALLOW POSTING AND WILL NOT SAVE ANYTHING YOU DO ONCE THE OTHER SERVER GOES ONLINE.

Party - Alcohol - Dhamma Wheel

Party - Alcohol

A place to discuss health and fitness, healthy diets. A fit body makes for a fit mind.
grasshopper
Posts: 60
Joined: Sun May 09, 2010 4:40 am
Location: Auckland, New Zealand

Party - Alcohol

Postby grasshopper » Mon Nov 15, 2010 9:28 am

Hey people,

I have been invited to a dinner (only 4 people in total) and the "norm" around here is people take a bottle of champagne/ wine/ 6-pack of beer etc. as a guest, without going empty-handed. But I do not drink, period. What else is there to take to a party of young people other than booze? It would be rude to take a bottle to the party but decline a drink from the very bottle that you just gave them, wouldn't it? All suggestions are much appreciated, thank you :)

User avatar
retrofuturist
Site Admin
Posts: 17855
Joined: Tue Dec 30, 2008 9:52 pm
Location: Melbourne, Australia

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby retrofuturist » Mon Nov 15, 2010 9:31 am

Greetings

Ask them in advance if they need you to bring anything (e.g. dessert, salads)... then that can be the thing you bring.

Metta,
Retro. :)
"Do not force others, including children, by any means whatsoever, to adopt your views, whether by authority, threat, money, propaganda, or even education." - Ven. Thich Nhat Hanh

"The uprooting of identity is seen by the noble ones as pleasurable; but this contradicts what the whole world sees." (Snp 3.12)

"To argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like administering medicine to the dead" - Thomas Paine

User avatar
Dan74
Posts: 3012
Joined: Sun Mar 01, 2009 11:12 pm

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Dan74 » Mon Nov 15, 2010 9:56 am

According to the anecdote I heard, a famous monk (Mahayana though) when visiting the US in the late 70ies, when invited and given wine, would happily toast with his hosts but not actually drink. Throughout the whole trip noone seemed to have noticed.

So if you brought the wine and you were poured some, you don't have to drink it. If they notice you can say why. If they don't, well...

It depends on the environment of course.
Last edited by Dan74 on Mon Nov 15, 2010 10:47 am, edited 1 time in total.
_/|\_

User avatar
Bhikkhu Pesala
Posts: 3670
Joined: Thu Jan 29, 2009 8:17 pm

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Bhikkhu Pesala » Mon Nov 15, 2010 10:00 am

Take some chocolates.
• • • • (Upasampadā: 24th June, 1979)

Paññāsikhara
Posts: 980
Joined: Wed Oct 14, 2009 5:27 am
Contact:

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Paññāsikhara » Mon Nov 15, 2010 10:20 am

Sparkling grape juice, fruit juice, ... there are plenty of things.
The chocolates idea is a good one, too. (Just not the liquer center ones!)
My recently moved Blog, containing some of my writings on the Buddha Dhamma, as well as a number of translations from classical Buddhist texts and modern authors, liturgy, etc.: .

User avatar
Ben
Posts: 18442
Joined: Wed Dec 31, 2008 12:49 am
Location: kanamaluka

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Ben » Mon Nov 15, 2010 11:09 am

I take a bottle or two of softdrink and something else, like a desert, salad, bread, chocolate.
And I've never had any grief over it.
And its no big deal being a non-drinker these days. We're everywhere!
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

(Buddhist aid in Myanmar) • •

e: [email protected]..

grasshopper
Posts: 60
Joined: Sun May 09, 2010 4:40 am
Location: Auckland, New Zealand

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby grasshopper » Tue Nov 16, 2010 9:24 am

Thank you very much all! Chocolates and dessert! Gosh, how could I forget, lol. The plan is to take garlic bread, ice cream and also a pot plant for the lovely hostess :D

Mawkish1983
Posts: 1286
Joined: Mon Jan 12, 2009 9:46 am
Location: Essex, UK

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Mawkish1983 » Tue Nov 16, 2010 7:48 pm


User avatar
Monkey Mind
Posts: 538
Joined: Sat Dec 05, 2009 8:56 pm
Location: Pacific Northwest, USA

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Monkey Mind » Wed Nov 17, 2010 6:19 am

"As I am, so are others;
as others are, so am I."
Having thus identified self and others,
harm no one nor have them harmed.

Sutta Nipāta 3.710

User avatar
Hanzze
Posts: 1906
Joined: Mon Oct 04, 2010 12:47 pm
Location: Cambodia

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Hanzze » Wed Nov 17, 2010 6:32 am

_/\_
Last edited by Hanzze on Thu Jan 13, 2011 4:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Just that! *smile*


BUT! it is important to become a real Buddhist first. Like Punna did: Nate sante baram sokham _()_

Sanghamitta
Posts: 1614
Joined: Wed Jul 29, 2009 9:21 am
Location: By the River Thames near London.

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Sanghamitta » Wed Nov 17, 2010 10:11 am

The going for refuge is the door of entrance to the teachings of the Buddha.

Bhikku Bodhi.

User avatar
Hanzze
Posts: 1906
Joined: Mon Oct 04, 2010 12:47 pm
Location: Cambodia

Re: Party - Alcohol

Postby Hanzze » Wed Nov 17, 2010 2:44 pm

_/\_
Just that! *smile*


BUT! it is important to become a real Buddhist first. Like Punna did: Nate sante baram sokham _()_


Return to “Wellness, Diet & Fitness”

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 6 guests

Google Saffron, Theravada Search Engine