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unspoken
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I don't think it's possible to teach her now...

Postby unspoken » Mon Aug 30, 2010 4:59 pm

My sister is older than me, 19 and she has Autism. This mental disorder is something like having difficulty to socialize and she needs to have to do "a little" self torturing things such as pulling off her hair one by one. This is because she need the "pain" produced to stimulate her brain to feel comfortable.

On the other hand my dad is a really.... bad person because not just he commit affairs with other woman, he even lie to family saying he's poor and use the money to go pubs to drink, taking care of other woman, use it to buy ornaments for himself and so on mostly unforgivable fault that a person will not do. When I give advice like don't commit affairs with other woman as it will bring harm or so, because he's hardheaded and he refuse to listen me, his "self centered" is really strong and saying " I am old than you, shut up. I know what I am doing, don't need you to tell me "

So his non-understanding keep scolding my sister and making conflicts between my sister and himself. I tried to help my sister by giving metta to her and hope to give her advices and so on. But she just don't get what I am telling and accuse me of scolding her all the time, sometimes she even do things without thinking.

So basically I am telling you guys that my non-patient,non-loving,unwise father is making the process hard and my sister despite of having a job, so she thinks she is old than me and do not take up advices from me.

So there's no way they let me teach them neither taking my advice, everyday they commit the same things. Is there any suggestions that can turn the situation to be better?

I got my own answer--- I just tell them the way to change when they wan't to know how to change. I did not give any suggestions unless they ask, but sometimes I will give.
I am just taking opinions from some experienced ones or wise people from other part of the country or region/

And sorry for my bad English, I hope you guys understand my English as English is not my native language and there's no active forum I know from my region.

Thank you. For the ones who give patients reading my post, may peace and wisdom will be with you.

Sukhi Hotu

Anicca
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Re: I don't think it's possible to teach her now...

Postby Anicca » Mon Aug 30, 2010 7:58 pm


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Re: I don't think it's possible to teach her now...

Postby Goedert » Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:00 pm

Friend,

This is a difficult thing to help you on an internet board.

I suggest you look to see the dependent co-arising in the situations, try to have a penetrative concentration and calm in your heart.

Suggest you contemplate the below verses of dhammapada:

"Kodhavagga: Anger" (Dhp XVII), translated from the Pali by Thanissaro Bhikkhu. Access to Insight, August 23, 2010, http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html.

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Re: I don't think it's possible to teach her now...

Postby unspoken » Tue Aug 31, 2010 3:42 pm


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Re: I don't think it's possible to teach her now...

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