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The Hidden Cost of Smiling

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The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Sherab » Thu Aug 19, 2010 1:52 am

Would like to hear your comments on this, from a Buddhist point of view:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ins ... st-smiling

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby octathlon » Thu Aug 19, 2010 3:12 am

I disagree with the premise. But maybe he hangs out with a different crowd than I do.

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Ben » Thu Aug 19, 2010 3:17 am

The practice on retreat of averting one's eyes away from faces and looking at the ground, coupled with noble silence, is a wonderful thing.
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Sherab » Thu Aug 19, 2010 4:05 am

Perhaps I should have elaborate a little bit more in my opening post.

For those who have withdrawn from the world e.g. in a retreat, I would agree that the article has little or bearing.

But for the majority of us who have to work and interact with office colleagues, customers/clients, suppliers or who are still living within a samsaric society and have to interact with neighbours, friends, relatives etc., do you think that the article raises issues for the application of Buddhist ethics/precepts in our daily lives?

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby 5heaps » Thu Aug 19, 2010 4:56 am

A Japanese man has been arrested on suspicion of writing a computer virus that destroys and replaces files on a victim PC with manga images of squid, octopuses and sea urchins. Masato Nakatsuji, 27, of Izumisano, Osaka Prefecture, was quoted as telling police: "I wanted to see how much my computer programming skills had improved since the last time I was arrested."

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby PeterB » Thu Aug 19, 2010 12:40 pm

:lol:

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Ben » Thu Aug 19, 2010 1:34 pm

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“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Lazy_eye » Thu Aug 19, 2010 5:01 pm

It's got to be the result of our marketing-oriented culture -- smiling and eye contact are tried and true methods of overcoming customer resistance and building rapport. We learn this stuff even in first grade when they send the kids out to sell cookies or whatever for school fundraisers.

It will be interesting to see if other cultures develop the smiliness habit under the influence of advertising.

Having said that, have you noticed how smiley the mainstream Buddhist magazines such as Tricycle and Shambala Sun are? Pages and pages of grinning gurus -- can be a bit disconcerting.

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Fede » Thu Aug 19, 2010 5:47 pm

"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment." Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'.

Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!

Quieta movere magna merces videbatur. (Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. ;)

I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! :D


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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Ben » Thu Aug 19, 2010 9:35 pm

Hi Fede

I came to the conclusion some time ago that some people aren't happy unless they've got something to be miserable about.
Some people,I have observed, can be addicted or deeply attached to certain things that make them miserable. And in many cases those 'define' those people, it props up a sense of self.
kind regards

Ben
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Ben » Fri Aug 20, 2010 2:45 am

whateva
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Ben » Fri Aug 20, 2010 7:52 am

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Fede » Fri Aug 20, 2010 10:08 am

"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment." Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'.

Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!

Quieta movere magna merces videbatur. (Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. ;)

I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! :D


http://www.armchairadvice.co.uk/relationships/forum/

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Re: The Hidden Cost of Smiling

Postby Annapurna » Fri Aug 20, 2010 11:38 am

http://www.schmuckzauberei.blogspot.com/


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