Relationships are good. They are how we cultivate bodhicitta.
I love and care for my girlfriend to the point that, yes, it could be easily be classified as afflictive attachment. But she is also a prime source of my motivation. Because of her, I better understand the four immeasurables and I am better able to practice them. Because of her, I am given plenteous moments to exercise the six paramitas, especially patience!
I truly consider her a guru because, without an actual guru at the moment, my practice would otherwise be stale, easy-going, dry, and unproductive.
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