ChangYuan wrote:So, I was diagnosed with Bi-Polar disorder many years ago. And I definitely have issues that would fall under the scope of that; but I know there has to be a better way than chemicals to get things under control. My biggest issue is poor impulse control, which usually leads to me getting angry over something stupid. Does anyone have any practical knowledge along these lines, for either impulse control or reining in my emotions?
I am sorry to hear about your emotional troubles.
I have two siblings, both of whom have been diagnosed with bi-polar, one of which has severe depression, ADD and ADHD on top of it (what a mouthful!). I myself do not have it, but can totally relate to seeing them go through personal struggles and watching a person who is at one moment on top of the world, and the next moment on the ground crying, or punching walls in anger.
Getting control of your emotions is not as easy as it seems. I was quite unware of this when I was younger, and would yell at my siblings when they would say they can't help it with "Yes you can! You're just making excusses!" And while this is partly true... it's harder than it sounds to control your emotions, isn't it? Some basic things I have seen my brother do is simply walk away. Okay, it may not be practical to simply walk away from something that is angering you. But, combine this with some buddhist ideas such as being mindful. Watch your anger rise and ask "Why
did this upset me? Should it have upset me" And go back and confront what it is that upset you. If it is a person, continue talk to them, and try to see their side. If it is a car not starting, go back to the car, and realize anger isn't going to get you to work. Call someone for help, call a friend for help, call your boss and calmly explain the situation... oftne times we blow things up with our emotions before we have even had a chance to look at the situation.
I am getting long here so I am going to try to wrap it up... Watch your emotions, be aware of their coming and going. At first allow the emotion to come, and later reflect upon why it occured, as you analysis becomes stronger you will, hopefully, start to realize there is no neccesitty for the anger, or sorrow, or w/e the emotion may be. Take a deep breathe and with it accept the situation, exhale the breathe and let go of the situation. (No I don't mean don't care about it, rather realize you can't control everything, and maybe the person who got you upset has faults too!) Remember, you cannot simply skip to roof of the house to help block unwanted emotions, first you must carefully built the foundationg to controlling emotions. If you work on it, you will feel the emotion and act on it, but eventually you can work on just feeling, but keeping it silent... and hopefully all together letting the emotions not even penetrate your house!
I wish you happiness and I hope you get the ability to watch your emotions come, simply sigh, and watch them go. Best of luck!