sattva wrote:i wrote this in the Theravadan Dharma Wheel forum but thought i would post this here as well"
Any ideas on ways to approach developing loving-kindness and compassion for someone you don't like and who doesn't seem to have any redeeming qualities? Part of the problem is that this person is so insincere and perhaps also a pathological liar that it is difficult to know if he is ever being straight up. Normally, i would focus on some good qualities a person has and do metta meditation with the person as the "enemy", but i am having a difficult time with this one.
Thanks for the input in advance.
Well...I take a two-pronged approach. One prong is to quash any ill-will and/or schadenfreude I feel toward the person. Sometimes I am better at that than at other times.
The second prong is to genuinely wish that the difficult person finds true happiness, and that their true happiness lies far away from me.
It is not perhaps the best Buddhist approach, but it's the best I can manage at my current level of Buddhist study and practice.