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In Love - what to do about it?

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Re: In Love - what to do about it?

Postby Guy » Tue Feb 02, 2010 2:18 am

Four types of letting go:

1) Giving; expecting nothing back in return
2) Throwing things away
3) Contentment; wanting to be here, not wanting to be anywhere else
4) "Teflon Mind"; having a mind which doesn't accumulate things

- Ajahn Brahm

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Re: In Love - what to do about it?

Postby Guy » Tue Feb 02, 2010 11:58 am

Four types of letting go:

1) Giving; expecting nothing back in return
2) Throwing things away
3) Contentment; wanting to be here, not wanting to be anywhere else
4) "Teflon Mind"; having a mind which doesn't accumulate things

- Ajahn Brahm

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Re: In Love - what to do about it?

Postby baratgab » Tue Feb 02, 2010 3:09 pm

"Just as in the great ocean there is but one taste — the taste of salt — so in this Doctrine and Discipline there is but one taste — the taste of freedom"

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Re: In Love - what to do about it?

Postby Sanghamitta » Tue Feb 02, 2010 3:29 pm

So Kayy in your view the Buddhadhamma is a self help strategy to help us adjust to this life ? A kind of positive thinking ?
The going for refuge is the door of entrance to the teachings of the Buddha.

Bhikku Bodhi.

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Postby kayy » Tue Feb 02, 2010 3:38 pm

p.s. i was just making a cup of tea and giggling to myself about the "self-help" thing... :jumping:

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Re: In Love - what to do about it?

Postby Sanghamitta » Tue Feb 02, 2010 4:12 pm

I think we may have to agree to disagree on some pretty basic principles concerning the Buddhadhamma, and that such disagreement would waste both our time.
So may you be well and happy.

:anjali:
The going for refuge is the door of entrance to the teachings of the Buddha.

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Postby retrofuturist » Tue Feb 02, 2010 8:42 pm

Greetings,

Of course, it's actually not-self help. 8-)

I don't think the "self help" angle is necessarily a bad entry door into the Dhamma... everyone's got problems they want to fix don't they? It's just unfortunate that the term has become synonymous with your Dr. Phil and Oprah crowd. In the Dhamma space, you've got people like Ven. K. Sri Dhammananda who have written texts such as "How To Live Without Fear And Worry", "You and Your Problems" and "Who is Responsible For Your Problems?" and I'm sure many people have had their first taste of the Dhamma through such avenues.

Apologies for the slight detour.

Metta,
Retro. :)
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"The uprooting of identity is seen by the noble ones as pleasurable; but this contradicts what the whole world sees." (Snp 3.12)

"To argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like administering medicine to the dead" - Thomas Paine

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Re: In Love - what to do about it?

Postby bodom » Wed Feb 03, 2010 12:36 am

To study is to know the texts,
To practice is to know your defilements,
To attain the goal is to know and let go.

- Ajahn Lee Dhammadharo


With mindfulness immersed in the body
well established, restrained
with regard to the six media of contact,
always centered, the monk
can know Unbinding for himself.

- Ud 3.5


https://www.dhammatalks.org/index.html
http://www.ajahnchah.org/

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Re: In Love - what to do about it?

Postby Sanghamitta » Wed Feb 03, 2010 8:46 am

The going for refuge is the door of entrance to the teachings of the Buddha.

Bhikku Bodhi.

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