Hmm, I think this thread should be titled non-Asian Western Buddhism, as at least in the U.S. we have 3rd generational Buddhist temples from 19th century Asian immigrants that have great sanghas that also reflect American culture. I've attended a Jodo Shinshu church, belong now to a Jodo Shu online group with Los Angeles temple affiliations & have experienced so much friendliness and support.
I remember mochi for New Years, cleaning the temple, being introduced to other members by the minister, tea & food after the service, taiko, lectures, martial arts lessons in the basement, Obon....gosh tons of things, it was the greatest, & totally family friendly. I briefly attended a Fo Guang Shan temple and they made me very welcome, there were tons of activities, a tearoom, cooking classes, children's and teenagers groups, lectures...
I also was part of a non-Asian temple and frankly never again; the control issues, the cliqueiness just like summer camp and high school.
we have great examples of warm genuine sanghas in the west, so go and check them out
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