Here is something that I sometimes struggle with and would like any advice...
In my work with People who suffer from Alzheimer's Disease and other types of Dementia Disorders I often find myself in situations where the most compassionate response is a lie, or at the very least a half truth.
A good example is that of this a woman that is asking where her husband is. I reasure her that her husband will meet her at home although he died several years ago. Due to her memory loss she accepts this and has a good day. To tell her the truth at this point would be cruel and of no use from a professional standpoint but does it violate the Precept of Honestly or is it simply a Skillful Means to releive suffering?
Or, perhaps a bit more sticky...
Very sadly, there has been very little progress on a cure for Alzheimer's Disease. However, at times I find myself useing that catch phrase "there is always hope" with a family or deflecting a question of if someone could regain lost memories. (something that is very problematic at best as the Electro chemical foundation for these memories has been disrupted and can't be retreved even if a cure were to be avalible.)
I just don't have the heart to just be honest in these cases, and tend to even be a bit positive.
Do these actions truly violate any of the Precepts or does compassion and the wish to help those who are suffereing override any negitive aspect?
Thank You.


