How to overcome attachment to our partner, lovers, wifes and husbands? How to overcome fear of loss? How to overcome time of long separation and irationals doubts?
Many of us (buddhists) have or had relationships and its seems to me, that relationship among others generates a lot of negative emotions (fear, jealousy, craving etc.) and a lot of tension. But still, there is basic need to have someone close, someone with whom we can share our feelings, problems and joys. Its like a basic need, similar to need of eating, sleeping and so on. Relationships just happen....
So, what is the way to built healthy-buddhist? relationship?
What have to be done to have relationship without pain? Its possible at all?
What is yours experience? Its not so easy, right?
From personal experience.......
Any effort was always unsuccessful. Later the reason Ifound was that effort makes the Ego. And increased ego creates side problems.
The method that worked with me was that I diverted my mind to research on God and vipassana meditation.
intensity of fear, jealousy, craving seeds died down probabily because of decay or negligence or development of Wisdom to very very great extent,
I am yet not totally free from all these. But my increased awareness keeps me peaceful in almost all situations i face these days.