You posed a couple of questions to me, but Jechbi seems to have answered them adequately to cover anything I might say.
Time now just to add a Dhammapada quote!
As a bee gathering nectar
does not harm or disturb
the colour and fragrance of the flower
so do the wise move through the world
(Dhammapada, verse 49).
"Do not force others, including children, by any means whatsoever, to adopt your views, whether by authority, threat, money, propaganda, or even education." - Ven. Thich Nhat Hanh
"The uprooting of identity is seen by the noble ones as pleasurable; but this contradicts what the whole world sees." (Snp 3.12)
"To argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like administering medicine to the dead" - Thomas Paine