WELCOME to Dharma Wheel Erin. It is my belief that love borne of compassion is ultimately genderless. You do not have to have gender to feel sad when people suffer or happy when they're glad. I happen to be a woman in this life's form, but I have many women friends who started off different than they felt. Now they are happier kinder loving-hearted for their choices.
But it was not easy.
Remember nothing worthwhile ever is. May your hardship bring you liberation by showing you where the heart of your joy lies. And I promise you in return I will strive to remember that too when I forget. All joy is borne through the birth canal of change.