Uh, what? You don't call someone an asshole to make them feel good. It's a harsh insult meant to hurt someone's feelings. Whatever caused the impulse to hurt someone's feelings, acting on that impulse and harshly insulting someone is clearly not a step in the direction of forgiveness or freeing oneself of ill will.
being afraid to hear what is not pleasent to our ears is still grasping no?
the dhammapada clearly says,
by oneself, wrong is done
the conditions were present for this nonsense to arise, the teachings of cause and effect say that it is not what arises, but how we react to its arrival that conditions us
Right... reacting by calling someone an asshole conditions us, but not in a way that is in a step in the direction of forgiveness or freeing oneself of ill will.