Denying you're a Buddhist to outsiders
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Re: Denying you're a Buddhist to outsiders
Right Speech generally (there could be the odd exception) excludes telling lies. When I took Refuge, my teacher explained that taking Refuge in the Dharma implied an additional committment to avoid telling untruths in matters of religion.
I don't go around preaching to those unwilling to listen. But if someone asks me if I am a Buddhist, I must not give them a false answer. I don't have to go into a lot of unwanted or un-understandable detail, but I do have to say "yes". To me, it would be a sign of profound disrespect for the Dharma not to do so.
Om mani padme hum
Keith
I don't go around preaching to those unwilling to listen. But if someone asks me if I am a Buddhist, I must not give them a false answer. I don't have to go into a lot of unwanted or un-understandable detail, but I do have to say "yes". To me, it would be a sign of profound disrespect for the Dharma not to do so.
Om mani padme hum
Keith
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Do they believe you? I probably wouldn't if you had Buddha statues and Buddha pictures all over the place. Does it really matter that friends and family understand the technical differences of Dzogchen vs Buddhism? That sound like a long, complicated conversation, one they probably would not understand.padma norbu wrote:I have occasionally in the past few years started just saying "I'm not really a Buddhist, though" to friends and extended family whenever they ask me about all my books and thangkas and statues...
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They probably think I'm weird and full of crap like a new age hippy or something. I think this is better than them thinking I'm really a buddhist because I think the professional buddhists who wear robes and stuff do a much better job setting an example than I do. Yes, I could try to set a better example, but it's just not natural for me to be a teacher. If I ever found myself in that position, I'd probably abuse the power more and more with each passing year.seeker242 wrote:Do they believe you? I probably wouldn't if you had Buddha statues and Buddha pictures all over the place. Does it really matter that friends and family understand the technical differences of Dzogchen vs Buddhism? That sound like a long, complicated conversation, one they probably would not understand.padma norbu wrote:I have occasionally in the past few years started just saying "I'm not really a Buddhist, though" to friends and extended family whenever they ask me about all my books and thangkas and statues...
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To nonbuddhists I say freely I am Buddhist. But I am not really a "buddhist". I am a practitioner of Dharma, not a follower of a school.padma norbu wrote:They probably think I'm weird and full of crap like a new age hippy or something. I think this is better than them thinking I'm really a buddhist because I think the professional buddhists who wear robes and stuff do a much better job setting an example than I do. Yes, I could try to set a better example, but it's just not natural for me to be a teacher. If I ever found myself in that position, I'd probably abuse the power more and more with each passing year.seeker242 wrote:Do they believe you? I probably wouldn't if you had Buddha statues and Buddha pictures all over the place. Does it really matter that friends and family understand the technical differences of Dzogchen vs Buddhism? That sound like a long, complicated conversation, one they probably would not understand.padma norbu wrote:I have occasionally in the past few years started just saying "I'm not really a Buddhist, though" to friends and extended family whenever they ask me about all my books and thangkas and statues...
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Maybe you could say you're a Dharmist.Malcolm wrote:To nonbuddhists I say freely I am Buddhist. But I am not really a "buddhist". I am a practitioner of Dharma,
not a follower of a school.
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Yeah, that's also kind of how I look at it. I have a natural wariness toward identifying as a group and have a tough time with dogma. So, it may be I was lucky that I couldn't find a sangha that would have me and finally discovered Dzogchen through the old E-sangha forums. Learning about dzogchen has helped me to understand Buddhism more than I dreamed possible (I originally wanted to join a sangha to learn all this stuff in the books that seemed incomprehensible). Now that I understand it better, I would probably be happy to be Buddhist, but I think if I joined a sangha and had to do all this preparation work and regular group interaction, it would have felt too much like a church to me and I would have probably got annoyed, felt disillusioned and quit and who knows, maybe I'd even be anti-Buddhist now. I think I'm rather lucky that all the places I contacted wouldn't have me at that time.Malcolm wrote:To nonbuddhists I say freely I am Buddhist. But I am not really a "buddhist". I am a practitioner of Dharma, not a follower of a school.
Now, it seems like anytime I call or show up to some teaching, people invite me, so it's very interesting that for a time nobody would welcome me as I was inquiring. I feel like that's unusual, actually. I only got up the nerve to contact these different groups because of a friend in college who said he just walked into a zen monastery and was allowed to live there for a month or so and they accepted him without much speaking, even. I'm not sure if there was a vow of silence going on or what, but I remember he said they didn't even say a word, they just accepted him. He was cleaning dishes and sweeping and stuff, I remember he said someone just smiled and handed him a broom.
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That is the coolest story everpadma norbu wrote:I only got up the nerve to contact these different groups because of a friend in college who said he just walked into a zen monastery and was allowed to live there for a month or so and they accepted him without much speaking, even. I'm not sure if there was a vow of silence going on or what, but I remember he said they didn't even say a word, they just accepted him. He was cleaning dishes and sweeping and stuff, I remember he said someone just smiled and handed him a broom.Malcolm wrote:To nonbuddhists I say freely I am Buddhist. But I am not really a "buddhist". I am a practitioner of Dharma, not a follower of a school.
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AlexanderS wrote:I tell people that i'm a horrible buddhist, because that is truly how I feel.
Wish I was up to the status of 'orrible Buddhist' . . .
What do the 'orrible do? Snog Buddhas? Kick monks into the meditation hall? Advise people to nod sagely to the latest platitude? Chant mantras backward? Celebrate Christmas?
I'm up for it.
MUH EMEP INAM MO
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Gosh you are a wag aren't you...
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Re: Denying you're a Buddhist to outsiders
Rather than: "I am a buddhist"
how about: "I follow (or agree with) the teachings of buddhism"
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how about: "I follow (or agree with) the teachings of buddhism"
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PadmaVonSamba wrote:Rather than: "I am a buddhist"
how about: "I follow (or agree with) the teachings of buddhism"
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If the thought of demons
Never rises in your mind,
You need not fear the demon hosts around you.
It is most important to tame your mind within....
In so far as the Ultimate, or the true nature of being is concerned,
there are neither buddhas or demons.
He who frees himself from fear and hope, evil and virtue,
will realize the insubstantial and groundless nature of confusion.
Samsara will then appear as the mahamudra itself….
-Milarepa
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Never rises in your mind,
You need not fear the demon hosts around you.
It is most important to tame your mind within....
In so far as the Ultimate, or the true nature of being is concerned,
there are neither buddhas or demons.
He who frees himself from fear and hope, evil and virtue,
will realize the insubstantial and groundless nature of confusion.
Samsara will then appear as the mahamudra itself….
-Milarepa
OMMANIPADMEHUNG
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ls6P9tOYmdo
Re: Denying you're a Buddhist to outsiders
PadmaVonSamba wrote:Rather than: "I am a buddhist"
how about: "I follow (or agree with) the teachings of buddhism"
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Which Buddhism?
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Re: Denying you're a Buddhist to outsiders
whichever buddhism you follow.Malcolm wrote:Which Buddhism?PadmaVonSamba wrote:Rather than: "I am a buddhist"
how about: "I follow (or agree with) the teachings of buddhism"
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EMPTIFUL.
An inward outlook produces outward insight.
An inward outlook produces outward insight.
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This is an interesting point, because if the person who is asking youKeithBC wrote:Right Speech generally (there could be the odd exception) excludes telling lies. When I took Refuge, my teacher explained that taking Refuge in the Dharma implied an additional committment to avoid telling untruths in matters of religion.
has some incorrect understanding of what Buddhism is,
(for example, a friend of mine said somebody he was talking to thought Buddhists worship cows)
then merely tossing up the label "buddhist",
if it reinforces that misunderstanding,
is treading very close (in my opinion)to wrongful speech, although unintentionally.
My point is, we can't always just rely on labels,
but may also have to add something to the answers we give.
A friend told me that although he is an atheist and doesn't like "all that religious stuff"
he had been reading about buddhism, and was interested in it, philosophically.
I told him, Buddhists, generally, don't proselytize (one group does)
but that if he had any questions, I would be happy to answer to the best of my ability.
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EMPTIFUL.
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Are most participants here at DW from the US?
I don't really understand all this, because in Europe I have been clearly telling anyone interested, Buddhist or non-Buddhist,
that I am a Buddhist for the last ca. 40 years. I have never encountered any negative reaction to this all these years.
Quite on the contrary.
Is the general climate regarding religions so much more restrictive in the US?
That said, it would be much more difficult for me to explain to outsiders, that I am a Bonpo Dzogchenpa. But this is just because most
people have just no idea at all what this means. Some of those who have some idea, might confuse Bon with shamanism though.
So I just say Buddhist, without going into much more details. For someone really interested though, I would freely explain the whole story.
I don't really understand all this, because in Europe I have been clearly telling anyone interested, Buddhist or non-Buddhist,
that I am a Buddhist for the last ca. 40 years. I have never encountered any negative reaction to this all these years.
Quite on the contrary.
Is the general climate regarding religions so much more restrictive in the US?
That said, it would be much more difficult for me to explain to outsiders, that I am a Bonpo Dzogchenpa. But this is just because most
people have just no idea at all what this means. Some of those who have some idea, might confuse Bon with shamanism though.
So I just say Buddhist, without going into much more details. For someone really interested though, I would freely explain the whole story.
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There is no generic "Buddhism".PadmaVonSamba wrote:whichever buddhism you follow.Malcolm wrote:Which Buddhism?PadmaVonSamba wrote:Rather than: "I am a buddhist"
how about: "I follow (or agree with) the teachings of buddhism"
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Ditto.tatpurusa wrote:Dzogchenpa.
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I've had a few strange reactions. I have people curse in front of me and then apologize to me. When I ask why they are apologizing, I get a "oh, because you are a Buddhist". That one is pretty funny. But in a certain way, maybe they made some merit, conceptually paying respect to the three jewels (not by paying respect to me), by not wanting to disrespect "religious people".
I've also had people think that I am supposed to be perfect, never get upset, or say anything bad, etc.
But this is mostly a projection of what people think of as "religious behaviour" on to Buddhism by people who do not understand it.
Usually I find people are interested if they find out or I tell them. Sometimes they ask me what it is about and I tell them a little bit. Usually, nothing sinks in.
Kevin
I've also had people think that I am supposed to be perfect, never get upset, or say anything bad, etc.
But this is mostly a projection of what people think of as "religious behaviour" on to Buddhism by people who do not understand it.
Usually I find people are interested if they find out or I tell them. Sometimes they ask me what it is about and I tell them a little bit. Usually, nothing sinks in.
Kevin
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that doesn't matter to this concern.Malcolm wrote:There is no generic "Buddhism".
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An inward outlook produces outward insight.
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.[/quote]There is no generic "Buddhism".[/quote]
What does that mean?
Does that mean there is no Buddhism but what somebody says it is?
Does that mean that the Buddha did not teach Buddhism?
Does that mean that there is criterion for determining what is Buddhism and what isn't?
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.[/quote]There is no generic "Buddhism".[/quote]
What does that mean?
Does that mean there is no Buddhism but what somebody says it is?
Does that mean that the Buddha did not teach Buddhism?
Does that mean that there is criterion for determining what is Buddhism and what isn't?