I'm wondering if anyone has any personal practices or bits of wisdom though they've picked up regarding this fear.
Johnny Dangerous wrote: That is the worst part of the fear, it's like at this point I hardly even take the fear seriously anymore, but it is always running in a loop and can easily suck me into this very self-absorbed, fatalistic world if i'm not careful. It's a very self-centered fear.
1. I am of the nature to grow old. There is no way to escape growing old.
2. I am of the nature to have ill health. There is no way to escape ill health.
3. I am of the nature to die. There is no way to escape death.
4. All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the nature to change. There is no way to escape being separated from them.
5. My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand.
Johnny Dangerous wrote::thinking:
Fa Dao wrote:JD,
I understand what you are going through. I used to have a problem with this too linked with depression. Unless a person has had a full blown panic attack centered around the fear of death they simply cannot understand what it is like. The strategy that worked for me was to prepare myself ahead of time knowing that when it arose I would JUST observe it..our natural inclination is to retreat from it, push it away. Some will say that you have to learn to accept it as a natural part of life. There is another option. No accepting or rejecting..just relax as much as possible and observe it. Slowly it will fade all on its own and eventually it will lose its power over you, you will no longer be a slave to it. I sincerely hope you are able to get past this..I know how debilitating it can be to ones life.
Johnny Dangerous wrote:Fa ado, thanks man...it's nice to hear that someone can identify, and has gotten somewhere, I'm trying to do just this and "watch" this stuff as it passes, it's helping.
lobster wrote:It's a very self-centered fear
Self centered where and how?
Nosta wrote:Johhny Dangerous, you said you practice sleep yoga...how did you learn that? I am seeking good books about that.
I have fear of death too, but my main reason for that is the separation of loved ones, and thats hard to deal with.
How do I deal with that? Well, the daily life stuff stops me from thinking to much: I wake up, i must take my breakfast fast, then go to my car, drive to work, get to work and start giving classes; during the class my mind is completly centered on that (too much stuff to do there), etc...I dont have time to think lol.
Another thing that works great with me - but I am not doing that since a while - is physical exercise. It improves my mood a lot.
And, at last, I think that daily mindfulness (while eating, driving, etc) is helping me a lot (in general, not only about the fear of death) because toughts will go away...your energy is occupied living the moment.
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