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Porn Free for 90 Days

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby rowboat » Mon Apr 09, 2012 11:43 pm

Rain soddens what is covered up,
It does not sodden what is open.
Therefore uncover what is covered
That the rain will not sodden it.
Ud 5.5

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Ben » Tue Apr 10, 2012 7:22 am

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby reflection » Tue Apr 10, 2012 12:19 pm

Hi guys,

Indeed, there is a danger in inproper suppression of lust. Thanks for the warnings and support. I also want to send my support to everybody who wants to try this.

But there is also danger in lust, and there is a skillful way to deal with it, following the dhamma. Whatever this skillful way is, is best found through both referring to suttas and teachers, but also by just trying, I think. It is probably different for everybody, with different minds with different attachments, at different stages of the practice, so we have to determine the best way for ourselves. We're all different.

Some may be at comfort with their current sexual activity/feelings, and others are not. For those who are not, I think it is not about becoming at comfort with it, but about changing it. To overcome an attachment, one shouldn't be comfortable with it; one should recognize it, see how it is uncomfortable (dukkha) to oneself and try to abandon it skillfully.

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Postby reflection » Tue Apr 10, 2012 4:27 pm

Hi,

I'm in my mid 20's and I am not in a relationship.

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby ground » Tue Apr 10, 2012 5:32 pm

Maybe a bit provocative but maybe worthwhile pondering ...

Actually there may be persons who do not have an issue with porn. So what is it that makes this an issue? The awareness of the immorality of the business and feeling as if supporting this through consumption of it? But in this case one should look at everything one consumes as a consumer and one will find inevitably products one consumes which are supported by immoral business.
Or is it being addicted and being driven to waste the time for it which one actually would prefer to spend for something else?
Or is it that one gets obsessed through it which then modifies one's perception and leads to social problems?

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Postby reflection » Tue Apr 10, 2012 6:02 pm

I would say those all factors can contribute for certain people. However I think those factors are not the core problem . The real problem is lust - at least for me, I can't speak for everybody. And so it is not just porn, but an addiction to sexuality in general.

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Alex123 » Tue Apr 10, 2012 7:01 pm

"Life is a struggle. Life will throw curveballs at you, it will humble you, it will attempt to break you down. And just when you think things are starting to look up, life will smack you back down with ruthless indifference..."

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby ground » Tue Apr 10, 2012 7:19 pm

Wow ... that's an inference :lol:

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Alex123 » Tue Apr 10, 2012 7:36 pm

Buddha has often talked about benefits of sense restraint (it is one of requirements for better progress), and I am a bit puzzled why some Buddhists would criticize it.
"Life is a struggle. Life will throw curveballs at you, it will humble you, it will attempt to break you down. And just when you think things are starting to look up, life will smack you back down with ruthless indifference..."

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Alex123 » Tue Apr 10, 2012 8:17 pm

"Life is a struggle. Life will throw curveballs at you, it will humble you, it will attempt to break you down. And just when you think things are starting to look up, life will smack you back down with ruthless indifference..."

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Justsit » Tue Apr 10, 2012 9:10 pm

Do you think lust is worse than any other type of suffering? Desperate people kill themselves and perform horrible deeds due to depression, anger, and other emotions - should all powerful emotions be extinguished, then?

There is a fourth option, which requires, as you say, wisdom, and great discipline - just observe the emotion, and it will self-liberate.

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

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"Life is a struggle. Life will throw curveballs at you, it will humble you, it will attempt to break you down. And just when you think things are starting to look up, life will smack you back down with ruthless indifference..."

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