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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Ben » Wed Mar 28, 2012 8:36 pm

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Buckwheat » Thu Mar 29, 2012 2:47 am

Sotthī hontu nirantaraṃ - May you forever be well.

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Khalil Bodhi » Thu Mar 29, 2012 11:17 am

Anumodana to those of you trying to overcome the flood of sensuality. I've had my own struggles and know how helpful such public determinations can be and that the support one can gain from it is truly invaluable. :heart:
To avoid all evil, to cultivate good, and to cleanse one's mind — this is the teaching of the Buddhas.
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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Dmytro » Thu Mar 29, 2012 4:44 pm

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Monkey Mind » Thu Mar 29, 2012 5:08 pm

This thread has been inspiring for me, as well. I was inclined to believe that pornography was "no big deal" as long as all parties involved are consenting adults. But then I also used to think the same thing about alcohol consumption. I read the articles and watched the video on the website cited in the OP, I think they present a fantastic theoretical model for why "behavioral addictions" (e.g. gambling, watching porn) become such difficult habits to break. Bravo to the OP and other contributors for boldly discussing this topic. (And the humor has been fun, too.)
"As I am, so are others;
as others are, so am I."
Having thus identified self and others,
harm no one nor have them harmed.

Sutta Nipāta 3.710

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Moth » Sat Mar 31, 2012 6:20 am

I'll join this challenge as well, I stopped watching porn awhile ago but I still struggle with celibacy. The way I stopped watching porn (and also taking drugs) was to make a solemn vow/promise to the buddha, dhamma, sangha, that I would never use it again, and I have not since (be it out of respect, fear of lying/bad vipaka, or both). I haven't been confident enough in my own resolve to make the same vow in regards to masturbation but after failing many time its becomes more and more clear how pointless and detrimental it all is. Hopefully none of you have given up yet.
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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Alobha » Sat Mar 31, 2012 9:14 am

May that be of inspiration to those pursuing renunciation of sexual activies:

Blazing storm

Just like a storm of raging fire,
This is Lust and burning desire:
To follow is the hot temptation
for succumbing sounds yet amazing.
Dancing in glowing embers of these
the tortured mind will find no release.
This is the truth of the storm in that one dwelt,
for being on fire you smolder and melt.

Just like the soothing touch of water
is Buddha, Dhamma, Sangha the dorter.
Cooling down in eager refrainin'
there may still be a strong storm blazin' -
but you're safe through practice and virtue -
resting and tasting final breakthrough.

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Topofdeehead » Mon Apr 02, 2012 5:51 am

dhamma,

Congrats on your awareness and determination to cut out porn and masterbation. I am on day 414 today of being off both and it's certainly brought some clarity to my life in certain areas. I wish you the best and don't be too hard on yourself (no pun intended) if it takes a couple of tries. Prayer was a huge help for me during my first 90 days. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions.

Congrats, sir.

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby dhamma_newb » Thu Apr 05, 2012 9:06 am

Hi Dhamma Wheel,

It's day 45 and I'm halfway through this process and I just wanted to post this to reaffirm my commitment. Reading all of your comments has helped me through the first half of the 90 days and I want thank you all for your support. It wasn't easy but with the Dhamma and the help of spiritual friends I've made it this far. If I reacted harshly to some of your comments I apologize and want to let everyone know that there are no hard feelings.

I may not post a lot on this site but I do consider Dhamma Wheel to be my Sangha. The wisdom that is shared here is unsurpassed and I feel blessed to have come across this site at the beginning of this difficult path the Buddha has laid out for me. Every day of study and practice is a reminder of how grateful I am to have come across the Buddha-Dhamma and how thankful I am that others who are further along the path are willing to share their knowledge and wisdom.

With Metta,
Don
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Dhp 36

I am larger and better than I thought. I did not know I held so much goodness.
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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Ben » Thu Apr 05, 2012 9:52 am

Dear Don,
I rejoice in your great meritorious efforts!
Well done, my friend!
with metta,

Ben
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby dhamma_newb » Fri Apr 06, 2012 6:12 am

Thanks Ben :smile:
The watched mind brings happiness.
Dhp 36

I am larger and better than I thought. I did not know I held so much goodness.
Walt Whitman

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby dhamma_newb » Fri Apr 06, 2012 8:37 am

The watched mind brings happiness.
Dhp 36

I am larger and better than I thought. I did not know I held so much goodness.
Walt Whitman

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Sarva » Fri Apr 06, 2012 8:53 am

Hi Dhamma_newb
How is the experience, have you noticed any difference in energy, daily thoughts, dreams, now you are half way through?

Keep going! :)
“Both formerly & now, it is only stress that I describe, and the cessation of stress.” — SN 22:86

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby dhamma_newb » Fri Apr 06, 2012 10:30 am

The watched mind brings happiness.
Dhp 36

I am larger and better than I thought. I did not know I held so much goodness.
Walt Whitman

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Sarva » Fri Apr 06, 2012 10:50 am

Thanks Don, for a detailed reply.
Sorry to hear you are finding your are on zero. Like most experiences it is subject to change and I wish you improvement.
I can relate to your story, pornography is so easily available that I sometimes wonder how people survived without it a 100 years ago. They seemed to be more accepting of their life-partner and lead a more innocent life; that's my impression.

I think what you are doing will pay off, as per all action (karma) it will reap a result and I would see that result being a strengthening of your will over Mara and enrichment to your insight at least. Something which will help you to help others in turn I would think. Keep us updated :)

Best wishes!
“Both formerly & now, it is only stress that I describe, and the cessation of stress.” — SN 22:86

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby reflection » Sat Apr 07, 2012 3:38 pm

I'm going to try it too. (after seeing the movie Shame, which is about sex addiction) No masturbation/sex/porn for 90 days.. Already made it for a few days, I guess, but I'll start counting now. This'll be interesting at least.. :tongue:

If someone wants to talk about it, you can always sent a personal message.


As a support to others:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7S84du6yH0

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby dhamma_newb » Sat Apr 07, 2012 5:14 pm

The watched mind brings happiness.
Dhp 36

I am larger and better than I thought. I did not know I held so much goodness.
Walt Whitman


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