You are right, this is one of the challenges of compassion. Although maybe far from orthodox I have recently thought that it is easier to think that the results of my actions are to please the Dharma rather than for the people around me. It is still compassion for people, but I find I am less open to expectation or disappointment based on people's reactions. For example, simple tasks like cooking, I cook not (only) for my family but dedicate my actions to the Dharma.
If anyone knows if this is already a right view or an idea in Theravada on dedication one's actions to another, please let me know as I have not come across it yet.
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on Sat Mar 31, 2012 9:03 pm, edited 1 time in total.
“Both formerly & now, it is only stress that I describe, and the cessation of stress.” — SN 22:86