oushi wrote:Did Buddha care for his family? Not really.
If he didn't, he would have not come back to teach them the dharma and help them get enlightenment. If he did not care about them, then why did he help them get enlightenment?
Did he care about homeless? Not really, he was one of them.
If he didn't he would not have taught them the dharma and help them get enlightenment.
Did he care about his food? Not really.
This is one I would agree with!
The idea that caring always = suffering is a fundamental misunderstanding, completely contrary to the Bodhisattva vow. Does Avalokiteshvara care for living beings? Of course! That is why he is called the Bodhisattva of compassion. Does Avalokiteshvara suffer because of this? He does not according the sutras. To insinuate that the Buddha did not care about other living beings is a fundamental misunderstanding. I don't know if that is what you are saying, but it seems like that is what you are saying.
The Buddha taught 4 divine abodes. Metta, karuna, mudita and upekkha. How can you have the first 3 without any caring at all? Caring for others does not necessarily mean craving and clinging for oneself.
From the Sakalika Sutta SN 4.13
Then Mara the Evil One went to the Blessed One and recited this verse in his presence:
Are you lying there in a stupor, or drunk on poetry? Are your goals so very few? All alone in a secluded lodging, what is this dreamer, this sleepy-face?
I lie here, not in a stupor, nor drunk on poetry. My goal attained, I am sorrow-free. All alone in a secluded lodging, I lie down with sympathy for all beings. Even those pierced in the chest with an arrow, their hearts rapidly, rapidly beating: even they with their arrows are able to sleep. So why shouldn't I, with my arrow removed? I'm not awake with worry, nor afraid to sleep. Days & nights don't oppress me. I see no threat of decline in any world at all. That's why I sleep with sympathy for all beings.
Then Mara the Evil One — sad & dejected at realizing, "The Blessed One knows me; the One Well-Gone knows me" — vanished right there.
So he is saying here he is completely free but at the same time has sympathy. Sympathy is a feeling of care or concern. If caring always equaled suffering, then it would be impossible to have Sympathy because that would make the two mutually exclusive.