Well if you openly ask people: are you happy? Most people will say yes or pretend they are, especially perhaps because people think honesty will make others avoid them, so they put on a mask to act like everything is fine, when it isn't. However look at my previous post
, the average American spends 34 hours escaping from their reality because it is so bad, just by watching TV,and that is just one popular form of escapism out of many... So what people self-report isn't the truth, and actually if you asked a question like: what is happiness? You would find they didn't even know or more accurately couldn't be bothered to stop watching tv, dithering on the internet, or playing video games to ponder about it!
In my life I noticed that alot of people may pretend they like their job. However people know there is a hierarchy of jobs, and those who claim to like their jobs really like the pay, benefit structure, relative autonomy and working conditions compared to other jobs, because they know there is much worse out there. But if you know them as a friend you know they constantly harp, gripe and complain about their job, their working conditions, having to go work on Monday, what they want to do in life but cannot because of work, etc.
I don't really think I have a positive effect on people, and I don't have the power to have a positive effect or much desire, since I never really met anyone worth meeting in my whole life. This is my effect on people:
Henry Ibsen wrote:
If you take the life lie from an average man, you take away his happiness as well.
I know how you feel partly, my job cleaning trains is also very mind-numbingly monotonous and low in social status, however I have better pay. But that is not enough for me, actually I was happier at other jobs I had before with less pay, as there was less co-worker gossip, micro-managing and stress.
I used to work as a house painter, and I saw well that those who make more money, just have bigger houses, finer cars and they are little better off in terms of happiness. If anyone wants they can search for an interesting program called: "The Fabulous Life of Billion Dollar Wall Street Ballers" broadcast by Vh1 on the Thepiratebay and see the disgusting lives of billionaires who convert 737 or 747 passenger jets into private jets, who have yachts almost as large as military destroyers. But do they actually know enough people to fill up those jets or yachts? Of course not, it is logistically impossible, they just attract gaggles of hangers-on and moochers. "Living large" is bullshit and a false path.
All the professions that claim to help people are the ones that do the most damage to society, cause the most harm, and the self-deluded ideologues who think they are actually helping, are actually doing the most harm. The cynical teachers, who are old-hats in their career, just going the through motions for their paycheck until retirement with little care anymore are doing comparatively less harm than those more invested in the ideology of allegedly helping, in the sinister process of mass schooling.
Thomas Princen wrote:
Studies show that children spend up to 50 percent of their play time arguing. Adults find it exasperating: “Will you stop arguing and just play!” What the adults do not understand but child psychologists (and probably quite a few kids) do understand is that arguing is playing, or at least a big and important part of it. What's more, arguments over home and first base, over who goes first, over what's in bounds and what's out, inevitably shift: You can't do that! Why not? It's not fair. Yes it is. Well, that's not how we did it before. So? And so forth. In other words, the arguing shifts from rules to principles, to questions of what is fair, who should benefit, what is the precedent. Kids can't help but invoke or create principles. ...
Princen, Thomas. Treading Softly: Paths to Ecological Order. (MIT Press, 2010) p. 65.
The purpose of school is crush this innate ability of children to question their social context, the social structure, the rules of the game of life, to change their surroundings to be more just or fair. By the time they finish high school which in my country takes up till age 18, they have learned that what they think, what they want, how they think things could or should not matter, that they just shut up, do what they are told, and pervert their soul to fit the needs of the domineering institutions that ask to control more and more of our lives. If you took everyone over the age of five and killed them, assuming the kids could grow up and survive, they would sort things out better without the adults telling them to do what they don't want to because they "have to" usually for money, or that "it has always been done like that", or you "cannot do that", etc.
Another example, there is a popular propaganda in my country that the purpose of the police force is to "protect and serve". But who? The rich. Recently there was big news that in New York City, the police department and state lost a court case over their stop and frisk policy. According to the UF-250 forms the officers were filling in only 10-15% of these stops were based on suspect descriptions
, instead they check the box that says "high crime areas". The litigants in the case hired statistical experts who examined these forms from 2002-2012 and found that: "when you control for all other factors, race is what is determinative, not-it’s not actually the area and the crime rate." Yet many self-deluded cops who are no jaded really think they are fighting crime and helping people. What they actual do is police the poor, minorities, who are the only large mass with the potential or desire to revolt against the wealthy interests. I made a thread exposing how doctors don't really help heal, instead their actual function is to adjust people to economic growth
and its externalities on health.