Yeah. I mean it makes sense. I also think that comparing my lust to drinking saltwater is a pretty apt description
However, as much as I feel like I have a bead on this and how it must look in my own life, I know that a lot of young LBGT Buddhists, feminists like me, women in general, struggle to make sense of a path that seems, from its history, not to be that compassionate after all.
But the key word here is "seems"
This thread is evidence of the endless arguments and plethora of scriptural sources that can be used to purport any agenda, whether it is sex negative, sex positive, sex neutral, affirmative of women, disparaging of women---Buddhism is a religion with a corpus of scripture and commentary vaster and more diverse than any other major world religion except perhaps Hinduism. We can cherry pick evidence that supports our own lifestyle, biases, or prejudices, or affirmations, all day long. We can define and redefine terms and it won't change the fact that the Dharma is not words, nor rules, nor prohibitions, nor is it not these things.
So it really comes down to what your incomparable Root Teacher tells you. His or Her instructions are more important than "the Buddha" of Sutra, because...Siddharta Gautama isn't currently available for interview.