Thank you for all your replies!
That's cool how as soon as accepted that one phenomenon it vanished, I've had similar happen. In some I noticed it was a change in body language, or I would experiment with people on how my tone, lexicon, and/or subtle body language would impact their behavior, it was really odd as it seemed like the various folks(family members/friends) didn't notice I was testing/observing them and noting their reactions. With this more recent issue it's become more of a problem since school got out and everyone is every.where. Seriously, it's surreal how crowded my old hangouts have gotten. I can see how you say meditating in public is good training, it's like if you can meditate here, you can meditate anywhere...kinda thing.
@zangskar, Really good suggestions, thank you! I look forward to trying them out. I never thought of lying down or feigning sleep. Earphones are hit or miss, sometimes people will just scream louder. lol. Thank you for the picture too!
@Monsoon, totally agree and absolute preference on several of your points. I have two (active)little kids, and the only time I can sit and meditate is after they fall asleep or in a class/activity so much too little for my taste really and want to expand I suppose.
So, I grab any quiet moment I can get, whether that's at a gym, park, waiting in line.....every moment counts.
Plus I figure there's something wrong with my body language or something that I attract these situations or at least there is something I can work on to improve myself(like use each moment to it's fullest kinda thing).
I mean that in the nicest way, as someone who looks like a freak
Ha ha,I'm a freak, so yeah, I find it odd, these people, generally women, just divulge all their problems/worries/medical history/TMI..etc., and I'm just like O.o. wait why? Like you said though, doing the Deep Listening thing has really helped, rather than fight/struggle with the moment, (start trying to escape, find a window of breath so I can interrupt and leave, etc.)... I relax, and I guess use them as a focal.
I agree, the perfect 100% Shamata one can do better in a very calm place. But if he has some other obstacles from inside ( harming of the silas for example) he can't even do it then in the right way.
Obstacles are various.
So true, I like how you do a sort of living meditation so to speak. Totally awesome!
You can do tonglen and lovingkindness meditation though and you can do insight meditation (taking the reactions to the experiences as the object of meditation is a form of insight meditation).
I'm still a beginner meditator so yeah, I'll have to look up tonglen & lovingkindness, but cool, thanks! I love pointers!
If someone comes up and irritation arises, rather than attaching to it and seeking to follow through with completing an action based on irritation (which just generates more karma) simply look at your irritation and let it be,
I noticed I have trouble with the "let it be" aspect, it's not hard to refrain from external action or sitting with the irritation, watching it rise and fall; just sometimes the feeling "sticks" so to speak, or I have a hard time letting it pass through me or crest(as at times it appears wave-like)...if that makes sense. :0) Is that something that gets easier with practice?
Anyway, thank you for all your thoughtful, kind, and insightful replies. It has really helped.