So how do you do it? Or what do you find helpful in regaining balance after experiencing/witnessing something disturbing?
So say recently, I saw a mom abuse her child, it's really not too uncommon here for parents to publicly beat, punch, loose or neglect their child. Most of the mom's that I've talked to about why they've lashed out at their kids blame their kids for their reaction, show little to no remorse and usually display a bit of victim attitude. I find it remarkable how frank they can be. Anyway, with the neglect or loosing their kids, once again, it's the kid's fault for not keeping up with mom shopping(etc.), or it's good for the kid to learn early how to "grow up" or they "don't need...food, water, physical contact, etc." like an adult, so I've heard so many times.
I have seen an unfortunate side-effect of this behavior personally, such as when my sister starved my niece, after getting in-trouble with the law, she decided to operate on the "grey side" of the law. I tried to put it in a perspective as to how caring for the child she created might benefit from basic care, as she as do many of the other mom/parents don't seem to see how it matters aside from the "what's in it for me" attitude. I know in my sister's case that our childhood abuse left her emotionally scared so that she became hardened to Nonetheless, in cases such as hers and others, I trust that the justice system is trying their best, but have a hard time shaking off the experience. I practice sending metta, seeing things from the parent's perspective, try to have a right action/speech, but still, I just hate seeing kids in particular suffer and that site tends to stick with me.