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Would like to deal with anger

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Would like to deal with anger

Postby Lmharker » Thu Dec 15, 2011 1:02 am

Hello

This is my first DhammaWheel post so sorry if it's in the wrong place.
I've tried meditation a bit before --- but lately I feel the need to deal with some anger.
Are there any effective meditative approaches for doing this (I've run a brief search too)?

Thanks
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Re: Would like to deal with anger

Postby manas » Thu Dec 15, 2011 1:14 am

Then the Blessed One, picking up a tiny bit of dust with the tip of his fingernail, said to the monk, "There isn't even this much form...feeling...
perception...fabrications...consciousness that is constant, lasting, eternal, not subject to change, that will stay just as it is as long as eternity."

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Re: Would like to deal with anger

Postby befriend » Thu Dec 15, 2011 1:31 am

buddha taught a middle way between expression and suppression. observe the anger as it were a meditation object. the anger is not yours. just be aware of the anger simply note it with a mental note, say in your head, anger, anger, this is anger. this alone, this awareness of the anger, is a wholesome state, because your not saying I AM angry your saying here is this anger. your not identifying with it. this will keep you from bottling it all up, or expressing it through violence or words. also important to remember the situation or person in ultamite reality does not have a self. who are you mad at???? what are you mad at? its gone. EVERYTHING IS IMPERMANENT. how can you be mad at it. hahahahahh. hahaha take care, Befriend. check out mindfulness of concisousness the third of the four foundations of mindfulness.
nothing can destroy a man who has lived a pure life

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Re: Would like to deal with anger

Postby Ben » Thu Dec 15, 2011 2:23 am

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Would like to deal with anger

Postby manas » Thu Dec 15, 2011 2:32 am

Then the Blessed One, picking up a tiny bit of dust with the tip of his fingernail, said to the monk, "There isn't even this much form...feeling...
perception...fabrications...consciousness that is constant, lasting, eternal, not subject to change, that will stay just as it is as long as eternity."

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Re: Would like to deal with anger

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Re: Would like to deal with anger

Postby santa100 » Thu Dec 15, 2011 2:14 pm

And another great link on Metta practice from Ajahn Brahm..

http://mettarefuge.wordpress.com/2010/0 ... -kindness/

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Re: Would like to deal with anger

Postby Sam Vara » Thu Dec 15, 2011 2:22 pm

You might also like to try

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Anger-Deadly-Ro ... 0195169751

Robert Thurman's little book on Anger (It is part of a "Seven Deadly Sins" series, but takes a primarily Buddhist stance). It is a bit Mahayana, but I found it very clear and helpful.

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Re: Would like to deal with anger

Postby appicchato » Thu Dec 15, 2011 3:08 pm

Welcome Lm,

All the different methods proposed above are fine, and not to detract from any of them...the deal is, and you seem to be new to this 'game'...after a while, reading, reflecting, contemplating, (amongst other things) about the Dhamma, it will be revealed that nothing is worth getting uptight over...may sound corny, but for me personally this has proven to be an invaluable tool in living life...it's actually worth repeating...nothing is worth getting uptight over...

All the best to you...

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Re: Would like to deal with anger

Postby Khalil Bodhi » Thu Dec 15, 2011 3:13 pm

To avoid all evil, to cultivate good, and to cleanse one's mind — this is the teaching of the Buddhas.
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