What I do know is that the first memory to apparently match real facts closely was an image I saw of a grave. And yes, I know this would have to be "after death." Some decades after, in fact, judging by the size of the tree by the grave. But from the position of the tree, the layout of the headstones, and the unique style of the fence, I was able to pin down one highly-specific location out of hundreds of thousands of graves: Ferme Buterne Military Cemetery, row C, plot 1.
From there I got a partial name, "J. Harris," along with a rank, serial number, regiment and battalion.
Yeah, but the thing is, did you have the name "J. Harris," in your mind/memory before
or are all these events, perhaps, just creating the memory as you go along?
I'm not disputing that such memories are possible
But what is usually the case is that as "evidence" pops up, A
seems to feel more familiar than B
and gradually a history is created as we accumulate a lot of A
's, meaning that as we go about essentially collecting evidence, that evidence presents itself in a comparative
For example, suppose you are at a cemetery, and you see a white marble grave marker, and a black granite grave marker.
If, in your mind, you are remembering a white grave marker, the very fact that there is a choice
, a difference, in the mind this adds support to the realness of the memory. However, if you see a white grave marker among many white grave markers, it won't seem as certain that the grave marker has any particular significance.
If you have some thought in your mind of a particular type of headstone in a particular location next to a particular tree, and then you see such an arrangement, you think "my gosh...that's it!!!"
But how many trees are next to grave markers, just in the United States alone?
Probably a couple of million.
The details you are providing a a bit vague.
The situation would be more plausible if, say, you had a memory of being in a war, and the name "J. Harris," kept popping up in your mind, and then you visited a cemetery where you had never been before, and saw such a military grave.
So, it is hard to tell, from your accounts, what came first.
It is the activity of the human mind to fill in the blanks whenever possible.