Sorry...that seems like some sort of a statement or claim.
I though you asked for a answer to this..."how do you not set expectations"
So as that isn't apparently the issue, feel free to disregard my comment. I would delete content but some may have read it and be confused.
We can always have reasonable expectations...as when I turn on a tap I expect water will run out.
This....."at some level there is always some expectation of results,"
this references some emotional response which is not the fact.We don't always have to have a emotional response to things nor to not have a emotional response to things necessarily infer we are forcing ourselves to not respond emotionally. I do not get upset when a 2 year old has a tantrum. I may expect humans should act differnently as human but it does not bother me a bit a 2 year old has a tantrum.They will still not get what they want, as it is not good for them. I could care less that they have a outcome that does not meet my greater expectations of human. Such expectations are drawn upon air and self created.
Circumstance largly determines results with human. NOt all but usually.
So my answer does not meet your expectations as I do not agree with your foundational basis..
So? I don't give a fig. Nor do I care that my expectations of your response are not realized...
So? I don't give a fig. I am not ignoring your response nor having any emotional surpression.
It simply is understood to be not a important thing....my expectations on this thing nor your expectations.
As all humans operate on the basis of understanding I can understand expectations are normally not met in many areas of complexity. As we cannot understand the circumstance fully we can not fully expect to know the outcome. I don't have to surpress anything.
Or to put it concisely....I do not enter a relationship expecting to have no expectations...that would be silly. I enter a relationship expecting that any relationship human based is subject to varying circumstantial result and thus I expect that many of my expectations in a human context will always invariably not be met.
So I expect my expectations often will not be met in the human thusly I don't mind a bit when they are not met. To expect to have no expectations....silly. It cannot be done. Involved emotionally with expectations results and all the rest....silly as well. My action and interaction is but part of a circumstance and thusly no single cause self or other may be found to be wholy responsible for a outcome of human action. So I would be silly to be emotionally acted upon by anothers action in this fashion other than superficially.
Surpression has not a bit to do with anything. Understanding the true nature of things prevents in us taking our expectations so seriously. If things work out fine. If not fine as well.
It is not that we never have expectations, or that that is the problem. Like the productions of internal thought they always persist in some fashion or other. It is that we take them so seriously that is the problem.
Will I ever manage to surpress thoughts so none present....no probably not. Will I have thoughts largly subside due to knowing they hold no intrinsic value.....yes certainly. LIkewise are expectations.Taken less then seriously they tend to subside so the only expectations over time we find we may make....is that the tap when turned on will produce water. If not...we become very disappointed...but it does not last
"This order considers that progress can be achieved more rapidly during a single month of self-transformation through terrifying conditions in rough terrain and in "the abode of harmful forces" than through meditating for a period of three years in towns and monasteries"....Takpo Tashi Namgyal.