Hence the student is unqualified.
Qualified students also go the wrong way at times.. even Bodhisattvas on the lower bhumis can fall.
Like I said, I believe esoteric practices are not suitable for most people.
Well, that's clearly your position. I am sympathetic to this view. But as Yudron has pointed out it's not clear what you mean by most people. I mean, most people aren't even remotely interested in Dharma, period.
Realistically speaking, if you are going to start perceiving things are pure and empty, you should already be mentally and emotionally stable so as not to deceive yourself into thinking you're on some high road to liberation while in actuality just finding religious justification for one's own neurosis and harmful habits.
Mentally and emotionally stable from a samsaric perspective?
How mentally and emotionally stable was Milarepa in the beginning?
It isn't even all about celibacy, but simply understanding that sexual desire is unwholesome and hence sexual activities are cause for future suffering in this and more importantly future lives.
I think this is where you lose the plot. It's not sexual activity that is a cause for future suffering but grasping to it. Even desire from the POV of the higher tantras is not in and of itself a cause for suffering, it is the attachment that it engenders.. the grasping itself. It is equally a cause of suffering to grasp to subtle experiences of bliss during meditation. This can be worse actually. If one can engage in sexual activity without grasping but gets stuck grasping to states of bliss what then? I think your absolutisms don't involve a sophisticated understanding of the actual terror of the situation.
The same principle applies to eating, which is why gluttony is to be discouraged.
The same principle also applies to grasping to ideas, and absolute ideas, btw. . .
The difference of course is that if you don't eat you will die
Not if you're adept at chulen.
Abstaining from sexual activities will not kill you.
It certainly could cause many problems though, depending on the individual.
In fact detoxifying from lust might even provide insight and reveal just how mentally weak one is
detoxifying from lust may indeed involve a healthy dose of actual sexual activity. Most cultivation of lust these days is online actually.
And celibacy is often the cause of lustful obsessions, whether self-imposed or not. . .
This is something I discovered personally.
Clearly your bias reflects your personal struggle, but every person is unique and will have a different experience and way to travel the path.
Lust tends to colour our decision making processes and value judgements, which is perhaps why hearing about teachings where you get your liberation and sex together are so alluring.
What's alluring to most of us about the view of the interdependence of the 5 poisons and the 5 wisdoms is how profoundly true it rings.
Lust is a mental poison
and poison used in the right context becomes medicine. = the view of Vajrayana.
However, also remember that the essence of the practice is not to judge others but to discover and purify our own worst faults. Even if we think we can know another person's mind through what we witness as their behavior this may be a wrong presumption.
In fiction this works, but not in real life. If someone is an abusive molester and alcoholic, you best approach them cautiously. You might convince yourself that they're really helping you, but that could just as well be self-delusion. Plenty of texts describe the qualities a good reliable teacher will possess, which is a decent gauge with which one might ascertain whether someone is really above the fray or not.
Reserving judgement and allowing oneself to be manipulated are two entirely different things. If you can't differentiate between them, then definitely for you personally I would say better to not tread on the path of pure vision.
What you're suggesting here is actually a genesis for cults arising.
Actually, absolutes without subtlety of view are often the genesis of cults arising.
People are told never to judge others and just see their superiors as having some kind of status above norms and even the law.
I never suggested this, reserving judgement towards other in general in any final decisive way (not "superiors") is a general conduct one should have for all beings. I was not speaking of teachers perse.
This is how you get scandalous teachers firmly rooted in Dharma organizations, or Zen Roshis who molest women for years and years without being ejected from their position.
Well, you find these scandalous individuals in every position of power in all institutions worldwide -- secular, political, or religious; across land, water and cultural divides; so I hardly think it's the fault of Dharma teachings.
I don't personally roll like that. There is such a thing as ethics and ethical judgements based on reasonable criteria. If more people were aware of this they'd not end up following questionable figures.
I hardly think it's a lack of awareness in most cases, rather a question of karma. Some of the most questionable figures behave in the most ethical ways.
There are many examples of yogis who appeared as greedy, lecherous, or drunkards who revealed at the time of death all the signs of highest accomplishment. We should really reserve judgement for ourselves when it comes to gaging results of practice.
Right, that's fiction though. I'm talking about real life.
Nope, it's not fiction. It's simple history. But you can cherry pick your examples based on your agenda and personal bias. That's what most people do anyway, why be any different?