Did I say that?
No, I did.
I extended your statement further, explaining that self continues to do, whatever it did, and Buddha is detached from the person. You views seems to imply that the self changes and becomes free from "inappropriate" behaviors.
But since married laymen don’t give up sex, how can they become Buddhas?
I only talk about seeing your nature. I don’t talk about sex simply because you don’t see your nature. Once you see your nature, sex is basically immaterial. It ends along with your delight in it. Even if some habits remain’, they can’t harm you, because your nature is essentially pure.
Is this addressing what I said? I think you are proceeding in leaps and bounds, my friend, and have lost me.
That which appears is an effect of karma. Even if some activities take place, like drinking or having sex, it does not say much about the actual awakening. So, even if someone "died prematurely" and was "an alcoholic and a compulsive womaniser", it doesn't mean he was not awakened. Maybe this will shed some light:
But once you see your nature, you’re a Buddha even if you work as a butcher.
But butchers create karma by slaughtering animals. How can they be Buddhas?
I only talk about seeing your nature. I don’t talk about creating karma. Regardless of what we do, our karma has no hold on us.
You appear to be conflating several things or possibly we are talking past each other.
First, awakening is of course transformative, since delusion is gone. So if I am an addict who escapes from the pain of existence into my addiction, practice and awakening will of course transform that. It is not about a new and better self, it is about liberation from delusion.
Second, awakening is not the same as awakening. Recognizing the freedom from the self is a long way from the skillful functioning of the original mind. Hongzhi is good. He makes it all very clear, for example:
Patch-robed monks make their thinking dry and cool and rest from the remnants of conditioning. Persistently brush up and sharpen this bit of the field. Directly cut through all the overgrown grass. Reach the limit in all directions without defiling even one atom. Spiritual and bright, vast and lustrous, illuminating fully what is before you, directly attain the shining light and clarity that cannot attach to a single defilement. Immediately tug and pull back the ox's nose. Of course his horns are imposing and he stomps around like a beast, yet he never damages people's sprouts or grain. Wandering around, accept how it goes. Accepting how it goes, wander around. Do not be bounded by or settle into any place. Then the plough will break open the ground in the field of the empty kalpa. Proceeding in this manner, each event will be unobscured, each realm will appear complete. One contemplation of the ten thousand years is beginning not to dwell in appearances. Thus it is said that the mind-ground con tains every seed and the universal rain makes them all sprout. When awakening blossoms, desires fade, and Bodhi's fruit is perfected self