Astus wrote:How the "transference of merit" happens? To quote from the text I have already referred to:
What you meant to quote was this line:
In order to share the good deed done by another, what is important is that there must be actual approval of the deed and joy arising in the beneficiary's heart.
The key term in that quote is "approval", not being aware. Because the article goes on to say...
However, those who have no chance to be reborn in a happy abode are always waiting to receive merits from their living relatives to offset their deficiency and to enable them to be born in a happy abode.
The quote from the Khuddakapatha also mentions nothing of the deceased knowing of the deed:
As river, when full must flow
and reach and fill the distant main,
So indeed what is given here will
reach and bless the spirits there.
As water poured on mountain top must
soon descend and fill the plain
So indeed what is given here will reach
and bless the spirits there.
(Nidhikanda Sutta in Khuddakapatha)
The article you posted DOES say that one should remember things done by the deceased as impetus for the meritorious action, which DOES maintain the chain of cause and effect.