Johnny Dangerous wrote:
I'd be interested to hear more on you guys experience in this vein.
When I was doing Judo, one of the best experiences on a personal level in retrospect was getting beaten really badly (which was most of the time lol), especially by pin. Being able to let go of the desire to win, but still try to win was for me, a big deal...if that makes sense. Of course, plenty of people train with the desire to win as a central thing - how do you view this?
Not sure where to start on this one...
I tend to look at martial art as mainly sport, something I can do with another willing participant.
When it comes to self defense, my main theories are preparation and situational awareness.
If I never use what I know, that'll be great.
If I have to use what I know, it'll be a combo to set up an off-balance, and then run.
It's all about keeping proper distances & creating opportunities to escape.
For my house, I have a dog that doesn't like people approaching the house, I have a nice alarm system with the cops on speed dial, I live in a decent area, and I have a pretty modest lifestyle.
As far as training itself...
I'm not really that competitive of a person.
I do it because I enjoy the training, pushing myself, testing my limits.
I also like helping other people, so I tend to function better as a trainer, pad holder, and sparring partner for others.
When I get ready for competition, I tend to start hating it if my sparring partners want to compete instead of working together.
The day of competition is not about anger or aggression, it's mostly fear and nerves.
Some people try to use anger or aggression to get through the fear and nerves, but that often leads to performance anxiety & no gas left in the tank.
A rare few can find that quiet place inside & not let it bother them, so in this sense it's very much a meditative practice.
Met one of the top 3 muay thai fighters of all time (Samart Payakaroon) and found out that he would meditate all night before a bout.
This was consistent with what I know about Thais in training, it's not common for them to get upset or angry in sparring.
Striking vs grappling:
When I do striking practice, whether it's forms, bagwork, mittwork, or even sparring, I'm always working on execution in some way: balance, power, technique, placement, etc.
I don't get too hung up on causing damage or hurting somebody, I don't really think of it like that.
It's more of a dance or a flow.
I think of that old adage: in the beginning a punch was a punch, as I progressed a punch was no longer a punch (but a complex equation of proper technique), and once I got better a punch was just a punch again.
Aside from takedown & standing clinch practice, I've never been much for grappling - especially when it comes to grappling on the ground.
I haven't had much luck putting myself at the complete mercy of my partner, as is required in groundwork.
I also have a very hard time losing myself in the practice; having someone laying on top of me is a huge distraction that makes me claustrophobic and keeps me from finding any "flow".
Err... I hope that's kind of what you're looking for...