Your hanging on to tight fella, loosen your grip.
Time for all of us to apply this advice to ourselves and put this issue to rest.
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
Dhammatthavagga: The Judge
translated from the Pali by Thanissaro Bhikkhu
To pass judgment hurriedly
doesn't mean you're a judge.
The wise one, weighing both
the right judgment & wrong,
judges others impartially —
unhurriedly, in line with the Dhamma,
guarding the Dhamma,
guarded by Dhamma,
he's called a judge.