Lazy_eye wrote:Children need emotional love from their parents. Lack of parental affection can result in psychological problems on the part of children.
Dear Lazy Eye
Yes. Definitely. The Eternal Spirit has infinite love, patience and empathy for children. This is because the Eternal Spirit has the innocence , purity and boundless potential of a child.
Partners need emotional love from each other.
Generally. However, if cultivating the path to the Eternal Spirit or simply maturing as a human being, ideally one's need
is reducing and one's ability to give & sustain is increasing.
When we speak of a "loveless marriage", it isn't usually a way of saying the marriage is working.
If love is increasing in its dependency or neediness, then a marriage is not working. Marriage under the Eternal Spirit is two human beings helping eachother to end suffering (rather than increasing the causes of suffering).
I see how Venerable's words are relevant to those who have left home life, but what about those of us who have not? Is the dharma not really for us?
This specific dharma may not be for you. However, the Eternal Spirit spoke through the Lord Buddha in many ways. The Lord Buddha gave many teachings specifically for householders, such as the Maha-mangala Sutta
, the Samajivina Sutta
and the Sigalovada Sutta
Most of all, the Lord Buddha believed in deities. The Lord Buddha said "parents are the Bodhisatvas of children".
Living with Brahma
are those families where, within the home, mother and father are respected by their children. Living with the early deities are those families where, within the home, mother and father are respected by their children. Living with the early teachers are those families where, within the home, mother and father are respected by their children. Living with those worthy of adoration are those families where, within the home, mother and father are respected by their children.
'Brahma,' bhikkhus, is a term for mother and father. 'Early devas' and 'early teachers' and 'those worthy of veneration' are terms for mother and father. For what reason? Because mother and father are very helpful to their children, they take care of them and bring them up and teach them about the world."
The Eternal Spirit is boundless and has dharma for all beings. Anjali!