My "freeing the mosquito in your bedroom" reference comes from a Vipassana meditation book written by an American (or British?) woman who literally described her act of catching and freeing a mosquito that had invaded her bedroom. My take would be to kill it, but on the other hand I hold spiders in a sort of reverence (because they eat mosquitoes!) and have never harmed one or killed one in my life. When my daughter was little and she had a spider in her bedroom, I would catch it in my hand and pretend to eat it, and then let it go on my back porch. Anyone who kills spiders do so because they are scary, hence someone who kills spiders is not a tough guy, and suffers under the delusion that spiders are scary. Of course, some spiders are
My take on things is common sense, which I believe is enhanced in someone developing a Buddhist mindset, because delusion is "cast out" through diligent Dhamma study and meditation. If you can come to see the spider in a new light, you can see people in a new light. I did case management for a long time because I like to see people succeed, and over the years I've helped "enhance the community presence" of disabled people, ex-cons, the homeless, and Asian refugees - even jungle villagers in Sri Lanka. But I did get paid for most of this activity (not much, not enough to support a family on). On the other hand, I got paid for what made me happy.
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Author of "Buddhism for Dudes" and
"Confessions of a Buddhist Gunslinger"