duckfiasco wrote:I'm extremely confused. It sort of feels like I'm going crazy. Am I possibly acting unskillfully and not realizing it? Is it that by calming down, I'm gaining perspective on the sort of atmosphere I was unwittingly a part of before? Am I just in denial and repressing everything? I do know my husband is worried that I "don't seem interested in anything anymore" since I cut down on some activities that were just to fritter away time.
Have any of you had this experience?
Thank you very much.
Just be honest and say "I'm paying more attention to what really matters in my life and discarding the non-essential. Thank you for your concern." If that doesn't work, let them believe what they want.(10) One moment, they're friends;
In an instant, they're enemies.
At a time for being delighted, they fall into a rage:
Ordinary beings are so difficult to please.
(11) Told what's of benefit, they get enraged
And cause me to turn from what's of benefit too.
But, if their words aren't listened to,
They fall into a rage and go, then, to a worse rebirth state.
-Engaging in Bodhisattva Behavior by Shantideva chapter eight
Johnny Dangerous wrote:Normally when someone is upset somehow the expectation is that you will be upset with them, two upset people instead of one. Since Buddhism teaches a totally different way of dealing with suffering, I think to a lot of people it comes across as indifference.
But..that might well be due to lack of insight on their part, not yours:
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