Zealot wrote:Im a little more concerned with the heedlessness and waste that comes from a household life. Should I not watch television with my family and loved ones? What about eating three meals a day and snacks?
What's wrong with 3 meals a day?
Snacking you could probably do without.
For householder rules, it's more about moderation with food.
For monks, it depends on which Vinaya you follow. I don't believe all of them dictate the 1 meal a day (could be wrong). I know for sure that not all of them stop eating by noon. I remember reading it was more about begging alms too often or at inappropriate times.
There's some debate over whether or not eating once a day is healthy for your body.
I know dietitians and nutritionists that would scoff at the idea that it's healthy.
A calorie bomb once a day, especially one of limited protein, probably wouldn't be all that great for your insulin levels.
If you look at the following study, although there was a reduction in bodyfat percentage, there were increases in cholesterol and it may impact cardiovascular health.http://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/85/4/ ... type=HWCIT
As far as tv, I don't zone out in front of the tube.
Sometimes I'll zone out on the net, but it's usually places like here or dharma talks on youtube, not the reddit frontpage or 4chan.
I will watch something specific occasionally, either a movie, a documentary, or a specific show; but I don't watch just to watch.
My kid's 3, all he wants to watch is cartoons, so I'm not really missing much by not sitting with him.
What I will do with him instead is try to play with blocks or play tag, something that's real interaction and not just mindlessly staring at the glowing screen.
I don't really have any solid advice to give one way or another.
You gotta do what's best for you.
Couldn't tell from your post if you've got kids or not.
If you do, I guess if you think so little of your role in their life, then they're probably better off - but you may want to think of the impact you'd be making on their life.
If you don't, then not as much to worry about.
If you think you're just going to forget about your family when you go into a temple, I believe you're mistaken.
My coach ordains for a week about once a year and he can barely concentrate because he's thinking of his family too much.
I didn't really (re)discover Buddhism until I already had a family.
My family is one of the bright spots in my life.
With all due respect to Nagarjuna; one of my heroes, it's obvious he never had a family.
I, my wife, or my kid(s) could be dead tomorrow and I would not regret one minute I spend/spent with them.
I may renounce after retirement, we'll have to see how my life goes. Until then, there are obligations to be met - my family wouldn't do too well without me.
In the meantime, I'm going to try to do retreats like my coach does, I'm going to practice as hard as I can, be the best person I can be, and not waste too much time worrying about it.
If I don't make it to a first bhumi Bodhisattva or even take official Bodhisattva vows; hopefully my aspirations and feeble amount of merit can help me get there next time around.