My bad. Thank you for the clarification and I misread the context of your post.
I am about to have my first and one of my concerns is how to open the Buddhadharma to him over the next few decades. I am very curious - how do your children react to the discussions? How does the subject come up? Do you incorporate it when talking to them? Do they identify as Buddhist? Is it something they internalize? Do you have a regular community that you attend?
Sorry for so many questions. I apologize if I am prying too much. I probably have a million more. I think I am getting into the angst ridden new parent phase and can't help it.
My kids are 12 and 14. Until this year when they were successfully transitioned to public school, they were homeschooled (this was to meet academic needs) so they were used to frank and open discussions which we regularly schedule (just like we scheduled math and history lessons). The first task is using age appropriate materials to teach Buddhadharma principles. The good news is that most Buddhist materials for kids focus on the core teachings so it is easy to build knowledge up to your specific school from there. We live in a rural area and not near a regular Buddhist community, but my parents and in-laws live down in the Los Angeles area so I do take them temple-hopping to a variety of traditions (Hsi Lai is one of our favorites). My kids identify as Buddhist although we live in a very conservative and judgemental environment so we are kind of "in the closet" in our local community. I do try to let the kids explore various aspects of Buddhadharma in accordance with their temperaments and interests even if those are not specifically my own. For example, I often tend to gravitate more towards Japanese traditions and am less strict in my practice but my daughter has ALWAYS been a vegetarian (would not even eat baby food meat) and tends to prefer the Chinese and Taiwanese Buddhist schools style of practice with stricter adherence to the Five Precepts.