I don't think Goldstein would disagree with either of you. I haven't heard him suggest at any time that the solution does not lie in practicing whole heartedly an informed path of practice, with guidance. He seemed to be speaking of something congruent with that, imo -- what it is about methods and teachings of a path that accounts for liberation - that brings us eventually to "the mind of no-clinging". For most of us this may involve countless lifetimes of work, clinging clinging much of the way.
"As Buddhists, we should aim to develop relationships that are not predominated by grasping and clinging. Our relationships should be characterised by the brahmaviharas of metta (loving kindness), mudita (sympathetic joy), karuna (compassion), and upekkha (equanimity)."
~post by Ben, Jul 02, 2009