For the past several years or so, I've seen, scattered around the web, posts alleging that Tibetan tantras say 12-year-olds should be fed sweets to encourage them to engage in ritual, tantric sex. When pressed, the authors of these types of posts sometimes reveal that it is not an actual tantra they are citing, but the Tibetan author Gendün Chöpel, who wrote a love manual entitled, "Tibetan Arts of Love."
The sentence "cited" generally goes something like, "In addition he recommends feeding a twelve-year-old honey and sweets before ritual sexual intercourse (Chöpel, 1992, p. 177)."
Chöpel says nothing of the sort. The above phrase is taken not from Chöpel's work, but from the book, "The Shadow of the Dalai Lama," by Victor and Victoria Trimondi (Mariana and Herbert Röttgen). The Trimondis have clearly been untruthful about Chöpel's writing; he says nothing about offering 12 year olds sweets before ritual sex, and on the contrary says very clearly 12 year olds aren't ready for sex.
Gendün Chöpel's Tibetan Arts of Love is not about ritual sex at all, in fact--it's about common sex between householders, and how they may have a more pleasurable sex life together. It's also about partners honoring each other in general, and pushes the society of his time to elevate women to equal status as men.
For a detailed discussion and analysis of this issue, including links to sources, please see: http://newbuddhist.com/discussion/15905 ... choepel/p1
If preferred, I'm happy to post relevant parts here on Dharma Wheel instead. I think it's important to set the record straight on this oft-repeated bit of Trimondillusion.