Ok, trick was the wrong word to use. Technique or method is a better word.
I'm studying this right now:http://www.lamayeshe.com/index.php?sect ... 3&chid=767
There is no contradiction - the role of equanimity is to eliminate partiality. Through meditating on all beings having being your mother you become equally close to all beings - there is no partiality here. The purpose of these instructions is for transformation of mind not to do metaphysics. Maybe we have a different understanding of the equanimity instructions and role.
Yeah, but that's the problem. That it's a method and not metaphysics. Because, the two methods contradict each other. I can practice them and feel the expected results (partiality and love/compassion), but my mind is complaining the whole time. So I can't have faith in the methods or experience their full results.
So you (and others) are saying that there IS a contradiction, but I should just ignore it and use the methods as methods, and not as truth (like emptiness)?
I can't do that.
Oh wait. Equanimity doesn't mean you don't feel anything towards people, you just don't prefer one over the other. Okay, now everything makes a lot more sense.
But still, why focus on kindness? Yes, I know why we should. I know it's good etc. But, technically all beings have been our enemies too.